My GF past lovers

[fire949]

I have been having difficulty getting over my gf past lovers... i know the past is past!

My gf past lovers were all black, and the sterotypes were all true, that they are huge and last lasted for hours...had very spectacular sessions with them.

I am an average guy...do everything in aveage....
Is my problem jealousy based upon the fear that she will stray because i am not not good enough. Fear of loss. Hence insecure?

pl. shed some light and thank you in advance...

[HardNgood]

Originally Posted by fire949

I have been having difficulty getting over my gf past lovers... i know the past is past!

My gf past lovers were all black, and the sterotypes were all true, that they are huge and last lasted for hours...had very spectacular sessions with them.

I am an average guy...do everything in aveage....
Is my problem jealousy based upon the fear that she will stray because i am not not good enough. Fear of loss. Hence insecure?

pl. shed some light and thank you in advance...

Apparantly, size doesn't matter if you read in here, lasting for hours isn't necessary BUT making her happy does..I suggest you enjoy the moment and work on it...if you think that she'll stray because of "performance"..then PUNT her !!...sex is NOT the Bed Olympics...

[dancingdoc2]

> Is my problem jealousy based upon the fear that she will stray because i am not not good enough. Fear of loss. Hence insecure?

> pl. shed some light and thank you in advance...

Your problem more than likely is insecurity. She is with YOU, because she wants to be. This is all you have to focus on. Work on keeping her happy and wanting more of you. She has moved on (to you), you need to understand that everybody makes comparisons, and she is still with you. Why then are you hung up on the past?

> he sterotypes were all true, that they are huge and last lasted for hours...had very spectacular sessions with them.

I think you need to read this article:
HELP! S/He is more EXPERIENCED! To which I say:

And you know they are all huge, lasted for hours, and had very spectacular sessions--how?

If she shared this information, shame on her. If she did this because she is mad at you, disappointed in you, or wanting to put you down, then shame on her. If you are buying into this, shame on you. If this is just your imagination at work, well.....

> Is my problem jealousy based upon the fear that she will stray because i am not not good enough.

Jealousy? Perhaps, although I still go with insecurity. If she wants to leave you, she will, whatever the reason. Why did you feel compelled to have her as your girlfriend knowing her history? Whatever your answer, ask this same question the other way around. My guess is that you both find something promising in each other despite the history each of you bring with you.

Work on making what you have great. You do not have to forget the past, just do not dwell upon it.

[EvilEvilKitten]

Jealousy IS insecurity - just another name for the same old fear.
She has a history - so what! BFD.

If you think being an average guy isn't enough - you are wrong. Think about this seriously. SHE PICKED YOU. SHE'S WITH YOU. In other words:

YOU WON!!

Now then, read around the forum, improve your skills both in bed and out, and you'll keep her.

[Ephemera]

I find discussing past relationships isn't a good thing to do.

I'm a jealous type - yes, because of many insecurities - so it's better for me to not talk about it. I know that about myself, so I don't do it.

If you can please her, don't worry about what other guys could do.

EEK is absolutely right.

[sera300]

Never discuss history of others relationships! Who cares who she was with? It has no bearing on your relationship.

[LooseCannon]

You'll have to find a deep sense of intimacy w/ her otherwise, that will always nag you.

[EvilEvilKitten]

Always nag at you? Are you THAT insecure?

[LooseCannon]

am I that insecure? This wasn't about me. I'm just saying. It could be anything superficial, a hairy upper lip, nose too big, a little on the heavy side, whatever. The point was that he needs to develop a deeper sense of intimacy w/ her otherwise thats all he'll see. Have I made myself clear?

[noodle209]

how about you not think about them because you aren't with them get it? not to be mean or anything it's just past is past, it's always gonna be hard to forget unless you give them a reason to forget.

about the sex thing. don't worry about it, you both need to work on it. try playing with her with your fingers, and get her really turned on before you enter yourself in her, so that why her sense of pleasure would have raisen.