Girlfriend on Girl

[bostonbeans]

My girlfriend and I have been dating for a while now and just the other day i found something out that i had never known. she tells me that when she was a freshmen in college, her and her roommate fooled around and had sex. my question is, is it normal for a straight girl to have sex with another girl? i know her old roommate and her boyfriend which makes things a bit more confusing

[goodinbed]

Are you sure she's not bi-sexual, maybe she just didn't have the guts to tell you before, and this is just a little clue for you. I don't think it's normal(and i'm a girl).

[Brandye]

I do not know what is normal but sexual contact between women in all female living situations is not uncommon. I have seen studies done in boarding schools where the incidence of sexual contact approached half - much higher than in boys' schools.

Some studies indicate as many as 30% of all married women have had at least one same sex fling. Among the group I went through University with there were several women who had same sex contact and later were married and moved beyond that. Some of us have gone the other way.

[BTDTWoman]

At Smith College, there was a name for women who had sex with women then got involved with men: LUGS - Lesbians Until Graduation.

[curious_woman]

Its perfectly normal for people to explore their sexuality without being gay; INCLUDING MEN! Having fantasies or a "gay experiences" does not make you a pansy or gay by default.

[BTDTWoman]

Similarly, experimenting sexually with the opposite sex may be a phase one outgrows with time. It doesn't have to mean that someone one is really straight.

[EvilEvilKitten]

Just an experiment - no need to worry.

[BTDTWoman]

Why is a young person's exploration of same-sex desires typically dismissed as an experiment or phase, while her exploration of opposite-sex desires is seen as an expression of their genuine sexual identity?

Heterosexism.

It's possible that after experimenting with a man, she will realize that she "really" is a lesbian. The difference is that she still may choose to partner with a man for the sake of appearing "normal" to her friends and family.

I have known many women and men who suppress their early same-sex desires in order to have kids and family acceptance. They come out in heir 40s or 50s, and recall their early life "experimenting" as an expression of their genuiine sexual identity.

[EvilEvilKitten]

True - but that's not his concern right now. He's wondering if he should drop her because of it. Answer is no he shouldn't.

[xkatex]

It was just an experiment. Girls will be girls, boys will be boys, we are all curious about "crossing the line". Dont drop her.