selfish lover!

[lovesfool]

well ive been with my girlfriend for over 9 months
suddenly she dislikes doing handjobs and going down on me, while i continue to do this to her as much as she likes me to.
its starting to get very frustrating and when i have asked her why she won't give me a handjob she tells me she dislikes the mess and fears getting pregnant which seems to me just an excuse as she did used to give me handjobs all the time.
im trying to figure out whats up but its hard to break through her barrier she has erected around her, (she dislikes showing affection outside of the bedroom)
when i asked her last night again why she won't do either she told me she was just a selfish lover like it was a joke.
her behavour has'nt been in tip top shape either she has been getting more physically violent( a.k.a if i don't move out of the way fast enough when she needs to get something she trys to pull my hair or something else)
which is becoming unacceptable behavour to me and is not the way to behave.

anyone got any advice
(breaking up is an obvous soloution but is there another way round?)
thankyou for the help

[sera300]

Admit her to the psych ward? Time to end this one pal, violence? No way.

[tommy_tucker]

you could try what she is doing, dont stimulate her. then when she asks say if she dosnt the you wont,

im all fairness she does seam a bit childish, dump her, quickly!

[lovesfool]

yeh its sounds like a good idea

[sera300]

Originally Posted by lovesfool

yeh its sounds like a good idea

Violence; emotional, verbal, or physical is not limited to women alone. It afflicts men as it does both heterosexual and homosexual couples. It's is unacceptable and without merit. Men & homosexual couples are less likely to speak up about it due to the stigma attached. One man I worked with had his leg broke & was reluctant to disclose his wife did this out of her anger over the lawn being mowed not to her liking--and he was embarrassed since he was a police officer. Best advice get away from her & if you have any decent contact with her family try to get her help--without you.

[EvilEvilKitten]

Leave her now, or kick her out if applicable, and do NOT let her anywhere near you every again! She is showing all the signs of "psychobitch". Be sure to tell her why and BE FIRM about this. NO GOING BACK THERE!

Her behavior is ENTRELY unacceptable!

[Jacoba]

Reciprocation is a huge problem.

My wife is that way, she enjoys me eating her out and fingering her all the time, she even at times will push my head down on her which I must admit I like, it turns me on because I enjoy very much going down on her.

But she only gives me a hand job if I ask for it and she is now rebelling at the idea of giving head. When I ask her why she will blame it on everything from headaches to the price of tea in England.

[EvilEvilKitten]

Jacoba - you asked the wrong question. It isn't that she won't do this or that specific act, the question is:

"Why do you expect me to give you what you want and need and yet you will not give me what I want and need? Does that sound fair? How would you feel if it were me doing this to you?"

[sera300]

Yeah and add to that being hit on the head or having you hair pulled...