Getting Over it

[xkatex]

I was wondering if people have any amazing cures or potions to get over a guy you fell hard for and are still on the ground about. Do you find going out for a girls night helps? Or finding a new guy to direct your "wanting"? Let everyone know how you handle yourself

[dancingdoc2]

In a word: Time.

[xkatex]

While the time passes what can you do to preoccupy yourself? I mean ive seen friends of mine tear themselves apart while "time" passes. Ive seen them completely change personalities a few who have never gone back to "normal". Is there anyway to make the time pass with more ease...or ways to keep "that person" off your mind?

[Pillarmerech]

Really all you can do is to keep yourself busy. Maybe take up a new hobby? Try to surround yourself with things you like to do, but the truth is you'll probably still think of "that person", but as long as you're staying positive, it will hopefully help.

[EvilEvilKitten]

IF you must grieve - do that at home when you're alone.
Relax, everyone's been there. Write poetry about it. Whatever - just do not do anything at all public about it.

Take a deep breath.
Then get out there and date, date, date - among an ENTIRELY different set of people. Go to new places and do new things with these new people.

Date as many men as you can talk into it.
Flirt and laugh and dance - but do not believe a word of it.
Just have fun.

[sera300]

Time heals nearly all & give yourself plenty of it. Go out with your friends, date many men, do not get exclusive with anyone until you wish to settle down (i.e. Marriage). Getting involved with one man is just a rebound as meets just a temporary need, though misguided. Find a new hobby, something you always wanted to learn to do, and do it. This gets you around new people without any old friends, allowing you to meet more & new ones with similar interests--I wanted to learn Culinary cooking & Ballroom dancing so I signed up for classes and met many nice people of all ages; many were in the same boat as I was.

Resist all temptations to call the ex; don't talk about him and do not talk bad about him ever. Do something which also helps others, this takes your mind off your needs/wants/sorrows, and opens your heart to people in general. Volunteer somewhere--pet shelter, hospital, or at a nursing home.

And be certain to go out and have fun!!!

[dancingdoc2]

And, what also might work better the more you do it is to consciously "change your mind" when he pops in. That is to say when you begin thinking about him, switch to some other thought. In the beginning you may have to do this over and over in a row, yet with time, as thoughts of him occur, it will take less and less effort and he will pop in less and less.

[Tallman]

Same boat here xkatex as they suggest above just go out meet friends and enjoy yourself, it gets easier but you still catch yourself thinking about the person at times just try and remember the good bits.

[EvilEvilKitten]

Don't remember only the good bits - because then you'd want him back. Remember the BAD bits if you remember him at all.

[sera300]

Originally Posted by EvilEvilKitten

Don't remember only the good bits - because then you'd want him back. Remember the BAD bits if you remember him at all.

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Ahhh remember the mix of the good & bad!!! Then you will recognize the next chameleon when it shows the face, LOL~~~

Same theory works for men during a breakup,LOL~