her hand jobs hurt me, how to talk about it?

[Maximilian]

so i'm seventeen and me and this girl lost our virginity together and now we are in a relationship.

before i get started i want to say i was not very sexually experienced before this relationship, but sexinfo101 and these forums have really gave me the knowledge i needed and she would never guess that have have not gone past kissing with a girl besides her,
i get the vibe that she has done things with other boys before me, but i feel like she does not have the knowledge/experience to show for it

so heres the thing...
after plenty of kissing, petting and giving her oral, i started to finger her and she was giving me a hand job. i was really in a lot of pain but i did not wanna just stop everything because she was really enjoying it. ive read the threads where it talks about how you should show your partner how you masturbate, so i tried (while simultaneously fingering her) but she didn't mimic my motions, it might have felt good but i was already so soar. lucky for my penis i had to take her home. cause she i was asking if was gonna come and i wasnt anywhere near
keep in mind there was no lube
i didn't have any blue balls but my penis was soar for the next day.

so im worried that everytime she will give me a hand job its gonna hurt, and i don't wanna tell her: "your hand jobs arent to great" b/c that could kill her confidence

* maybe it was just a bad first run and the next time will be better
- the positioning, it could be awkward giving a hand job from that angle (she was laying on her back and i was on my knees straddling her
- perhaps it would have felt good after i showed her how i masturbated, but i was already soar
*how do i talk to her about it with out crushing her confidence or making her feel subconscious about it
-ive thought about telling her about this website, but i think that might make look like a sex-fiend

should i just wait until my next hand job and show her again how i masturbate?
or should i confront her in a more direct manner?

[imalover]

you should definitely direct her on how about giving you hand job. keep in mind she does it to make you feel good and if she keeps thinking shes doing the job good then shes going to to continue going about doing her normal routine on you. so my advice would be to tell her on how to do it right. trust me, shed be glad you told her how to do it right.

[EvilEvilKitten]

"My girl and I"... please - manners.

Now then - get some lubricant and snuggle up with her and SHOW her how you like it done. Then lube yourself and guide her hands. Finally let her do it on her own - still using the lubricant.

So you get 3 handjobs out of this! I'm sure you won't mind that.

[Maximilian]

haha thanks 4 answering my q

[Godiva]

If showing her how you like to be touched doesn't work, just a quick "it would be great if you could [insert request here]" should work. That way you won't kill her confidence.

[dancingdoc2]

Maximillian, did you read the one about:

How Do I Get Him/Her to Orgasm From a Hand/Blow Job?

[cyclefreak]

Talk to her. She doesn't know how it feels for you. She needs your feedback, so communicate. And use lubricant.

[Maximilian]

ill make a big note of it,
and yes i have taken a look at that thread
thanks again =D