living together?

[tommy_tucker]

me and my girl friend have lived together while my mum and dad were on holiday. the thing that has happened is we have sort of fell out. we are still together but she has decided to sleep at home, like we were before. we are both young (im 18 she is 17) and only have been going out for 5 months. is it that we are imature and still too young for this sort of thing or it was too much too soon?

[sera300]

Living together at your age? HUH? Geez, get your own apartment or house, a full time job, college degree, and have fun. Stop playing house, way too young!

[dancingdoc2]

It could be either one or both. You know more than we do.

I tend to believe that both are the issues at the present time. Why not just continue to be friends, date, mature, learn a bit more about each other and the world. If the relationship is meant to be, it will be in time, however five months is way too soon to tell most of the time. What's the rush? Give it a year and then see where you are.

[tommy_tucker]

when i say moving in i mean that she has moved in while my parents are away on holiday. i spoke to her and we both think that we are too young for this, but i guess the 4 day party didnt help all that much for the sleep part. (we both get ****ty when we are tired)

[sera300]

Originally Posted by tommy_tucker

when i say moving in i mean that she has moved in while my parents are away on holiday. i spoke to her and we both think that we are too young for this, but i guess the 4 day party didnt help all that much for the sleep part. (we both get ****ty when we are tired)

So you spent the night together. Many people, all ages, get cranky when too tired! It remains the same as you get older, you just learn to tolerate it, and to compromise. And you learned something about each other.

[tommy_tucker]

it wasnt the night, she has stayed over many times before. this time she moved in like she was on holiday. she was here for 9 nights. what i think made it go tits up was we arnt working in the day so it was 24/7 in each others pockets. you know i think we did learn alot from it. i know that we are closer for it but also at the same time it was too much too soon in the relationship. sill give it a few years and it could be happy familys

[lostsheep]

man it was atleast 7 or 8 months before i was even allowed to have my gf sleep over(rather she was allowed to sleep here, my mom didn't care) im 18 and she's 16. she has stayed over a fair bit since then (were now at 1 year) and usually the next day we get up and do stuff like work on our cars or do chores or go for a walk/drive, 24/7 sex makes sex become old, it just becomes the same old same old i say if she wishes to sleep at home just support her wishes and she will come around, girls are ALOT more emotional then us guys and get VERY attached to things that are special to them, she may just not be ready to leave the nest

[tommy_tucker]

thanks lostsheep that is what i needed to hear. i though it was like that but i needed some one so second it for me.

[LoveGems]

I'm living with my boyfriend at the moment and I'm only 18, and he is 19.
We do have our ups and downs but I think that it is just being together a lot means that any stresses get released on the closest person to you.

If you don't think that the time is right then just wait, as you said it was only whilst your parents were away so just wait until you both think your ready

[EvilEvilKitten]

And once again - the OP only heard what he wanted to hear.

Guy - you both were and are waay too young to be living together even if just for 9 days. It wasn't even your own place!

Before you can ask someone to share your life, you have to HAVE a life!

So forget the 'happy family' and get ON with your life!