Mixed Messages

[xkatex]

I recently began talking to a guy I knew in elementary. He has grown up quite nicely in my eyes and he thought the same of me. We ended up hanging out one night just talking and having a good time. He brought me home around 11:30pm and we ended up sitting in his car in my lane way till 4:00am just talking and a little bit of making out.

We talked again about hanging out onthe Sunday after but it got postponed till the monday. It was basically the same thing and ended the same way (just not as long because we both had stuff to do). Since then if you heard the way we talk to eachother you would think we were both head over heels for eachother (which in my case i was)

Now here comes the confusing parts. This guy seems genuine and not the type to lie. He has a girlfriend who, judging by his side of the story, treats him very badly. She ditches him when they hang out and such other things that are similar. He told me one day that as soon as she gets back from camping (which isnt until the 17th/18th) he is breaking up with her. Now hes told me how much he wants me and how gorgeous he thinks I am and he says hes done with her immature ways and such.

The other day I was chatting with his sister on MSN and asked her if she could deliver a message to him to call me around 4pm. She said sure but he never called. Now I know he was probably there cause she said she was going to get a movie with him. So later on that night a few friends and I were chilling and I thought it would be a good idea to call him and see if he wanted to hang with us. I called and I was told he wasnt home and I asked (what I am assuming was his mother) her to tell him to give my cell a call when he gets home, that time didnt matter. She said sure....he never called.

Now him not calling late at night is understandable. But another strange thing is that for the past two days he hasnt been logged onto msn(he has a laptop so hes always signed in just not always there sorta thing)

I e-mailed him basically just saying hi but I dont think hes been on lately so im not too worried bout that. It just that today when i talked to his sister she seemed a little snappy towards me...maybe im just exaggerating but it sure seemed that way.

What I want to know is what could possibley be going on. Everything seemed close to fairytale like and then all of a sudden this! A friend of mine suggested that maybe he just hasnt been home or busy but im thinking that he wouldve gotten atleast 1 out of the 2 "call me" msgs. Do you think this think is done with? Could he have just lost my number? I dont think i did anything to "drive" him away

I know I am probably exaggerating this and being very paranoid but its been two days since we've had any contact with eachother and I just want to know what some more experienced people think is going on. PLEASE HELP!!!

[sera300]

Ok, so he suddenly vanishes, he knows how to contact you, let it go. If he calls fine, if not okay, don't wait to hear from him. It sounds as if you were a nice "break" and he is up to something else. If a man wants to find you he will, don't chase him. Go on with your life and friends--it's not sounding good w/him.

[dancingdoc2]

I recommend leaving third-party individuals out of the path of communication in the future. I know about the desire for information and for information to be passed, however, at this early stage of the dating game, I would deal directly with the boyfriend. Ya just can't rely upon reliability or know a person's agenda.

[xkatex]

So should I call him then? I called last night so if I do get the guts up to call again whens a good time?

[sera300]

Originally Posted by xkatex

So should I call him then? I called last night so if I do get the guts up to call again whens a good time?

I would not call again since he also has your e-mail if he "lost" your number. As doc points out, no third parties involved. And this man knows how to reach you if he wants to.

[Suki2007]

I just want to say that I don't think it's ever a good idea to get involved with someone who is in a relationship unless that is what you want - a 3 way relationship. If he is willing to fool around on his current gf, he probably doesn't think fooling around is such a bad thing. My rule is I never date someone who treats their past or present significant other in a way I wouldn't want to be treated.

[EvilEvilKitten]

Move on, girl, move on!
If he ever calls again - say "excuse me, what was your name again?"

Learn how to NOT be a doormat.