How did you meet your significant other?

[Knight]

The title of the thread says it all, how did you meet the person that your with? How did you go from just acquaintances/friends to the close relationship you have now? How did you gain their attention/affections or what did they do to gain yours?

You can even answer from past relationships that you have had too. I'm asking these questions so I can see how other people have done it, maybe I can get some inspiration and courage to pursue an interest of my own.

[sera300]

The last serious relationship since I am with no one now? I met on-line, had about 4 dates that week (with others) and did not feel much like meeting him since I had a few things that day happening. Went out to lunch figuring I would make it quick since it was too late to cancel, met, and lunch lasted for about 12 hours. "It" was just there when we met it was bilateral.

We had talked on the phone before, he seemed nice but too good to be true. He captivated my attention, he continued pursuing me, and in time we were dating. My greatest attraction to him was; his ability to converse with nearly anyone and well--and on any topic. We talked a great deal when we were together, both of us were fed up with the "games". I did nothing out of the ordinary to get his attention was just myself, cooked a few nice dinners, we went out, he brought me flowers (always a big plus in my book).

We found over time we had the same values, goals, etc. In the end, nearly 3 years later and engaged to be married the next month, one piece we both missed, we had slightly different priorities. It was not an issue for compromise b/c one would ultimately be unhappy. Family is number one always to me without any question. To exemplify; if something happened (an emergency) to my family member, I would walk out of work regardless of the consequences; whereas he would not. He traveled a great deal and was unwilling to get on a plane and fly home if needed. This was tough since we had discussed having kids and I could not be a single parent 2-3 weeks a month without being able to depend on him. His travel had just increased due to a promotion and meant more time out of the US.

What captured each other? We enjoyed many similar interests/hobbies yet enjoyed a few different ones, neither was clingy, we enjoyed the same day to day activities yet loved to just get on a plane and go somewhere spur of the moment. Intellectually we were a good challenge for the other, and financially we were on equal ground and lived similar lifestyles. Sexually we were very compatible which we both said we would miss & never find again in another person after we split.

It was the whole picture, nothing specific. I hope somehow this helps you. . One thing I have noticed, when you begin to look for a spouse look for the person who is best suited for you overall, not the one you love the most because your love grows more with time when you choose well.

[tommy_tucker]

with the girl im with atm. we worked together (both part time) since oct last year. at the time i was going out with a different girl so we were just friends. but when i was with the other girl i was realy just waiting for th next best thing, and one day i saw her, my current girl, and though 'wow'. the girl i was with at the time was cheating on me so it just went to ****. then the girl im with now, i got her myspace and aim and started talking more and realised that we both like each other. so we met up one day, just as a hang out thing. then after a few more days meeting up we watched a film at her and i kissed her. it has grown from that realy. we have been going out 5 months on saturday (offically, i asked her on her birthday which was about 4 weeks after the 1st time we met up)

now we are together we talk about when we first me last year and it turns out that she liked me then and was going to act on it but found out that i had a girl friend. its funny how things turn out. i like her, she liked me but i wasnt confident enought to ask her.
it has made me think more of just do it, what the worst that could happen??

[Westles]

The girl i am with now is one of my bests mates sister lol.

[lustforlove]

the guy i'm with now was introduced to me by my friends, we met up twice and then one night i just plucked up the corage to asked him and a year later we're still together, i think it's cool

[browneyedgirl]

This is an interesting thread, it's fun to read how different people met.

I met my boyfriend through school, he liked me for a long time and even asked me out a couple times, but I liked him more as a friend. But he was really nice and I the more we talked, the more I liked him. So, I asked him out and gave him a shot. We dated for a while and got along wonderfully, and I thought he was really cool, but I wasn't really looking for a serious relationship at that point so I broke it off because he was more into me than I was into him, which made it unbalanced and awkward. The next year I really missed him and a while later I realized how much he liked me, and how rare that was. At that time a lot of guys hit on me and thought I was hot, but he was the only one who really cared about me and liked me for who I was. And I was ready for something serious, so I asked him out again and we've been together since (2 years now), and are very much in love. I know he's the person I'll be with for the rest of my life, we are just so perfect for each other and have such great chemistry. (We are planning to get married in a year or two.)

In general tho, if you're looking for someone my advice is just to let it happen. I think it's kinda funny how people look for a partner with business strategy. To me, what's important is love. If you really love each other and are right for each other, you will find a way to make it work. If you live in different countries, you move and learn the language. Whatever it takes. I am not a big believer in Internet dating where you try to match your priorities and then see if your compatible. People change, and something you didn't think that you wanted you might end up wanting with a certain person. Anyway, good luck on your search!

[Knight]

Wonderful posts to read, they make me smile. I started this thread because I have someone in mind who I would like to ask out, but I wanted to see how other's have succeeded in getting a relationship. Particular questions that I have for my situation I will be saving for another thread.

Otherwise, keep those stories coming. Those who are still in the described relationships, I hope the happiness and love continues. For those who aren't anymore, I hope you find the right person for you.

[learning]

I met my wife while still at school. Asked her out only to be told she had a boyfriend!

Anyway, about a year or so later I got together with her sister . We were together for about a year. Anyway, a long story but after we broke up (I was leaving school to go on to varsity) her sister asked me out...... 16 years later we are still together and are very close with her sister too!

[unintentionally]

The guy I'm with now and I share a circle of friends, so he was just kind of *there* for a while, and I think I had decided I wanted a boyfriend, so at a New Years Party, I just kind of attatched myself to him because I thought he was cute, and as he's horribly shy, he went along with it. (Later on he asked me what we were doing, and I told him that it'd be easier if we just said we were dating, and he agreed.) We've been together for nearly a year now, and it's going pretty well. It was a ridiculously strange way to get together, and you wouldn't think it would have worked out as well as it did, but I suppose I just got lucky.

[DruityLoops]

his little brother was friends with my soon-to-be stepbrother. they finally introduced use after about a month of trying to make us meet each other. we had both has bad experiences with members of the opposite sex so neither of us were looking for someone.

the night we met i knew he was soemthing special. i was just supposed to pick up my stepbrother from his place and i ended up staying until two that morning talking to him. i was at his house every night for the next few days and after we went on our first 'date' and i never went home that night. we stayed up talking until about three and he insisted i sleep in his bed and he would sleep on the couch. a week after i met i knew i wasnt goin to let him go so i asked him to be my boyfriend and it all went from there!

i love hearing how people have met their boyfriends/girlfriends!