Relationship title - What IS this creature?

[touch me there]

The man I've lived with for 20 months and have known for 4 years and I pretty much have all the signs of a relationship but the title. He'll refer to me as "my girl" openly is physically affectionate in public and is a wonderful lover, as a general percentage goes! We've never referred to each other as boyfriend or girlfriend and have discouraged others from referrng to us in that manner, but neither have pursued anyone else during this time together.
This is the confusign part, especially as he did have the chance - but she said all he did was "talk about you."
What would you refer to this as? There is no part of our life that is not combined, we rearely argue and when we do it's resolved, not harbored. Whatever it is it seems to keep us content for the majority, but I"m curious to what outside thoughts are .

[oedipussy]

I'm the same way. Never cared too much for the boyfriend/girlfriend dynamic. I prefer not having to label what I have with someone - I think it's a good way to keep things from becoming overly complicated. If you two are happy with what you have, there's no need to change it...

[sera300]

Originally Posted by touch me there

This is the confusign part, especially as he did have the chance - but she said all he did was "talk about you."

I do not understand this part of your post. Okay you live w/a man, but date others? Who is "she" when you said "she said all he did was talk about you"? His date? Sister? Mother?

[CrazyJenny]

The way I understood it was that "she" was his date, and that his date rejected him because he talked about the girl he was living with. After all, it's not exactly an attractive package to be dating someone who's already living with someone else.....

[sera300]

Oh, well that is a bunch of fun! Living w/one? Dating another, sounds as if he is a bit messed up here.

[EvilEvilKitten]

LOL - seems harmless to me! But then I swing so my first thought was "so what was the problem?" So you are a couple but you aren't a couple? Oookay, but did you ever think that this "refusal" to be a couple has confused everyone else around you? Animal, Vegetable, Mineral is fine as a game but when it comes to interacting with the world it becomes rather tiresome for those around you trying to figure it out. And if all is well, why aren't you going about as a couple? You're living together. Seems very "couple-ish" to me. PFFFT at that "no labels" stuff. Why be scared of a "label"? If you still want to date others - fine with me - is it fine with each of you if the other dates other people even if they do more than just "talk"?

What is the point of your relationship?
Marriage? Open or Closed?
Just co-habitating until you're both old and grey or what?