is this for keeps ? and is it love?

[xkinkykellyx]

well i have been going out with my boyfriend for about 3 months now, although we havnt spent alot of the 3 months together as he is in the army and only comes back at weekends. When we first met up we clicked instantly mainly as we have simular intrests and have been friends before in the past. He has had a reputation of sleeping about and he knows that i am capable of cheating.. but we have put those disadvantages aside and worked towards the advantages.. i can speak for me and him that we do trust eachother as we have to as i only see him 2 days a week. You see i have really strong feelings for him and i miss him so much when he is away and he tells me that he misses me loads too. We text eahother every nite and phone eachother once a week. We have a brilliant sex life 'hes like an animal in bed' The other night i plucked up the courage and told him that i loved him and he told me he loved me back which i was so happy about. He always says swet things to me like im beautiful etc and hugs and kisses me. Hes always on my mind, my first thought in the morning and my last at night. What do u think is he right for me ? is it love ?

xx

[lustforlove]

only you can descide that

[DruityLoops]

another thing you have to make sure is whether you are in lust or love. there is a difference

[EvilEvilKitten]

It isn't love until he's asking you to marry him.

[Raidenator]

As I recall, for the first year roughly, of dating a chemical is produced within our bodies called "Oxycotosin". This gives us the feeling of yearning, or love, for another person. It may be that you're just feeling this. I learned that the hard way, so don't mistake something for true love that isn't.

EEK said it, but unless he's gonna ask you to get married, then I would say no. Or at the very least having been together for a couple of years.

[DruityLoops]

i alwatys thought that oxytocin was what your body released when you were in labour and the baby was pretty much saying 'im ready to come otu now'
i got straight A's in biology at highschool but i guess i musnt have listenened too hard when we learnt about that part :S

[sera300]

Oxytocin is released both during labor (in large amounts) and during orgasm.

[Webby]

Originally Posted by xkinkykellyx

well i have been going out with my boyfriend for about 3 months now, although we havnt spent alot of the 3 months together as he is in the army and only comes back at weekends. When we first met up we clicked instantly mainly as we have simular intrests and have been friends before in the past. He has had a reputation of sleeping about and he knows that i am capable of cheating.. but we have put those disadvantages aside and worked towards the advantages.. i can speak for me and him that we do trust eachother as we have to as i only see him 2 days a week. You see i have really strong feelings for him and i miss him so much when he is away and he tells me that he misses me loads too. We text eahother every nite and phone eachother once a week. We have a brilliant sex life 'hes like an animal in bed' The other night i plucked up the courage and told him that i loved him and he told me he loved me back which i was so happy about. He always says swet things to me like im beautiful etc and hugs and kisses me. Hes always on my mind, my first thought in the morning and my last at night. What do u think is he right for me ? is it love ?

xx

hmm.. I'm no expert but I've fallen in love a few times... and to me - this sounds like the more infatuated stage - u kno? Where both of u don't wanna be apart - u wanna spend each and every moment together and he showers u with sweet little things and gifts and sweet nothings.... Love - in my defintion is that u want ur significant other to be happy. Love is if ur other partner finds someone else and doesn't love u - u'll let them go because it wasn't made to be - and he's happy elsewhere. Sure, this hurts. Love is complicated... and I'm still not to sure about my definition of it But I'm still learning - my bf n i have been going out for 9 months and neither of us have said the ILU just yet and really meant it. Wait for this euphoric feeling to pass and see if he still treats u the same way It could be love

[dancingdoc2]

Unless something is said over the phone, or written via the net, you won't really know whether lust, infatuation, or love is indeed in the air until the two of you begin spending more time together hands-on than a weekend now and then.

[EvilEvilKitten]

Webby, please take the time to use English and not "web-speak", thank you.
But what you said is quite correct.