Women Hitting On Men

[yuna5]

I want a man- should i just act like a guy with guys? Should i just start conversations and risk rejection? I'm thinking maybe i should. i don't want to put my picture on the internet. I want to meet a guy in real life. and i'm starting to think that maybe if guys don't hit on me maybe i should hit on them? what's wrong with that? has anybody done this? what should i do?

[moose_hd]

Most guys wish that other women would take the risk approach for once. Go for it!

There is absolutely nothing wrong at all with you hitting on guys. Actually I had a very good relationship for over a year with a woman who approached me first. No regrets at all!

[yuna5]

Thanks Moose! How should i do it? just walk up to a guy, smile and ask for his number?

[moose_hd]

Originally Posted by yuna5

Thanks Moose! How should i do it? just walk up to a guy, smile and ask for his number?

Well that is totally up to you, but I suggest you consider this:

If a man approached you in whatever way you consider to be "ideal," how would his approach make you feel?

Your approach should make the guy feel that way as well. The tricky part is that male emotions don't work the same way as female emotions.

Yes, it's a tough question. Maybe if more women considered it, they wouldn't get so annoyed when a guy comes across as awkward or a bit of a sleeze.

But seriously, it doesn't have to be super-smooth. You have an inherent advantage in approaching and will be held to a lower standard because most men don't expect you to do that and would be very impressed that you even made the effort.

[Raidenator]

I would just say walk up and say hello. I mean, I would be flattered if a girl were to walk up and just start talking to me. I wouldn't think too much into it.

[yuna5]

Originally Posted by moose_hd

Well that is totally up to you, but I suggest you consider this:

If a man approached you in whatever way you consider to be "ideal," how would his approach make you feel?

Your approach should make the guy feel that way as well. The tricky part is that male emotions don't work the same way as female emotions.

Yes, it's a tough question. Maybe if more women considered it, they wouldn't get so annoyed when a guy comes across as awkward or a bit of a sleeze.

But seriously, it doesn't have to be super-smooth. You have an inherent advantage in approaching and will be held to a lower standard because most men don't expect you to do that and would be very impressed that you even made the effort.

Thank you! I have to think about that! What would the ideal way for a guy to come up to me be? Hmmm... i'll do that right now...

[yuna5]

Originally Posted by Raidenator

I would just say walk up and say hello. I mean, I would be flattered if a girl were to walk up and just start talking to me. I wouldn't think too much into it.

Thanks... but i've actually done this before and been rejected... i was at a party and i asked a guy if he would dance with me and my friend and he said no. I mean, why, when i was like the thinnest girl at the party and i'm pretty and after i did that other guys were all over me. i guess he just didn't like my vibe... so i know how rejection feels...

[yuna5]

Ok, i figured out how my ideal man would ideally hit on me.

He'd look very hot. And he'll smile and say hi. Then he'd make a joke and make me laugh... And keep making jokes... And hopefully i'd be able to make jokes back... And finally he'd ask for my number... and leave on a good note, maybe another joke...

i would totally fall for that... i love joking around...

So, i know how i should ideally act toward a guy...

[sera300]

Never chase a man just walk up and initiate a conversation if possible...or flirt across the room. Ask for his number--nope he will freak out thinking you are some stalker. Be assertive in the flirting game...don't be afraid to chat to a man first...just be confident.

[yuna5]

Originally Posted by sera300

Never chase a man just walk up and initiate a conversation if possible...or flirt across the room. Ask for his number--nope he will freak out thinking you are some stalker. Be assertive in the flirting game...don't be afraid to chat to a man first...just be confident.

Thanks... i'll try!