am i being a moron? (engagment)

[pinklady9]

my boyfriend and i have been together 4 about a year.he got me a ring for xmas. that got stolen. he just got me another one and he told his soccer buddy hes goin to propose on sunday. im so excited. yet im only 14. ive dated plently for my life time. like ive already dated pretty much 1/2 the kids in my school. he on the other hand hasnt. im his 5th girlfriend. but only girl he is even considering asking to marry. i no well b together 4 ever. ( no im not just some crazy kid in love) its true love. not that teen love.

so is it ok to be 14 and engaged?

[sera300]

NO... You cannot be. Forget it. Just date, so steady or something and give life time to grow and for you to as well. You both are getting in too deep for your ages. Yes, we all fall in love, think we will marry him/her, we all have been there, but to get engaged? NO...NO...NO. I can promise you there is only about a 1% chance he will be the one you end up with...enjoy your life, love, and have fun there is plenty of time to be a responsible adult with a mortgage...trust me. So, I am telling you NO engagements and I don't even know you. You will find in time, in many years, it takes a lot of work which you are not prepared for and you will say, what were we thinking?

[lustforlove]

umm get engaged fine ok i guess but you cant get married untill your old enough anyway so whats the piont shouldn't you just wait untill then?

[pinklady9]

Originally Posted by sera300

NO... You cannot be. Forget it. Just date, so steady or something and give life time to grow and for you to as well. You both are getting in too deep for your ages. Yes, we all fall in love, think we will marry him/her, we all have been there, but to get engaged? NO...NO...NO. I can promise you there is only about a 1% chance he will be the one you end up with...enjoy your life, love, and have fun there is plenty of time to be a responsible adult with a mortgage...trust me. So, I am telling you NO engagements and I don't even know you. You will find in time, in many years, it takes a lot of work which you are not prepared for and you will say, what were we thinking?

well we r that 1%

[lustforlove]

you dont know that though and you've written so many posts latley on fairly different subjects i think you should over come thoughs problems before starting on another

[pinklady9]

Originally Posted by lustforlove

you dont know that though and you've written so many posts latley on fairly different subjects i think you should over come thoughs problems before starting on another

what problem first though? sex or engagment?

[Tallman]

Marriage at your age would be pointless. If you truly believe he's 'the one' then you can safely be together until you're both older and able to support yourselves and deal with marriage properly.

[sera300]

Dear, at 14 you do not know. An engagement is not a state of being, it's not a title, it's an ACTION. Meaning you date for years, he puts the ring on your finger and you set a date and marry in the near future...you don't live in a state of imperpetuity.

[lustforlove]

well i think you shold deal with your problems with sex and your mum first

[sera300]

Originally Posted by lustforlove

well i think you shold deal with your problems with sex and your mum first

That's a good place to start. Then you can ask if she'll go and pick you wedding gown out with you.