New 'Boyfriend' is confusing...

[Expressionless]

I'll give a little backround first. I met 'Joey' in a highschool class about two or three years ago. I had a little crush on him. We barely spoke, so my crush went unknown. Then about four months ago I found facebook.com I was adding all my friends when I saw him name...So I added him. We started talking, real conversations for the first time. I never really thought anything of it, I told him I used to have a crush on him. He invited me out. We hung out for a couple of hours, he kissed me, and asked me out. I suggested going on dates, but he persisted on being in a relationship. I said fine lol. I barely know the guy at all.
Anyways for the confusing part is, he says he likes me. But yet ye wont ever see me. He asked me out two weeks ago and ive only seen him twice. I invited him out to my bday party gathering drinking thing, and he wouldnt, he wasnt even returning my call. Then the next day he was like 'yeah i tried to call you but the phone hung up' its like WTF you cant try again? Then he keeps avoiding me. So I stopped calling and texting him. (which wasnt a crazy amount if your guessing that lol.) Then he asked if I wanted to go over to his place (hinting sex) so I kinda blew up on him lol. Anyways I did finally go over tehre (No sex) we did make out though...Haha. Then he told me he'd stop by my work (which he's also never done) but guess what...he didnt. ARG. I think im just gonna have to break it off. I dunno if I stay with him if it will get any better. He says he's always busy...

[dancingdoc2]

Break what off?

So far I do not see anything to break, although whatever isn't going on between you seems broken already.

Just stop contacting him and if he contacts you, say thanks but no thanks and that should be the end of it.

[Mike_N]

You can find better.

[sera300]

Follow the advice given, blow him off if he contacts you.

[Expressionless]

Well, considering that we werent even dating, I guess it's not a huge deal that he's dating a girl right now...Not me of course. Ah well. I dont think I liked him really anyways, I liked the way he made me feel. Which is not what I want. He wasn't interested in me in my view, I think he just wanted in my pants. Was talking to one of his old friends today (my coworker and friend) told me he usually just uses girls. So im happy Im not with him. I probably would have been hurt bad. Thanks for the info that I already knew, but was trying to ignore

I'll probably be pestering you guys again, about another relationship. You are all so awesome! Keep up the good work!

[sera300]

Honey, leave this as a lesson learned, get your confidence together and use this to read people better...mainly men! If you have learned something, not all is lost! A man who is into you will not be so evasive, not clingy either. He will just stand his ground giving you the room you need to grow as an individual yet holds on to you with a strong presence.

[EvilEvilKitten]

If a man wants to be with you; he'll be with you.
He'll take the time and make the effort.
He'll pay attention and try to please you without being a wuss about it.

But never again "chase" a male as you did with "Joey".

[browneyedgirl]

You need to read "Hes Just Not That Into You" by Liz Tuccillo and Greg Behrendt.

[Ephemera]

As a guy, let me tell you that men are conniving jerks who would go to any means to trick a girl into having sex. After that many will treat the said girl like ****, because they know they can. Often it's a game about who in the relationship can make the other fall deeply in love to the point that they can treat the other like **** with no repercussions.

This is AWFUL. You need to find a guy who has some sense of responsibility and humility, someone who is romantically likable, as well as a good person.

Easier said than done, right? But they're out there... date around until you find something promising. What often happens is people become so pessimistic about finding the "right" person that they don't allow themselves to. Date around, have fun, be hopeful and wait for someone good.

[xkatex]

Hun ive been in your positon.....ditch him hardcore. If he ever contacts you again tell him off. Dont get emotional just act calmy and say something like "Naw i cant hang out me and a few friends are going out tonite" then end the conversation.