can i trust my girlfriend?:(

[lovesfool]

well first off, hi im new to the forum.
well my problem is to do with my girlfriend who ive been going out with for 8 months now going on.
she's 16, im 17.
well im sure your first impression is that im just some paranoid fool who has no faith in his girlfriend at all, ah but don't judge me yet
well. my girlfriend is going on holiday to spain with her elder sister and her sister's friend.
now i have complete faith in my girlfriend when she's sober and i know she likes me very much and the feelings mutual.
infact i do believe i love her
theres only 1 problem with this...alchohol
when she's drunk she is rather different and all her inhibitions are gone. she becomes a completly different person when she's drank, now ive accepted this as a part of her and i know she would'nt cheat on me if she was a tad drunk but if she goes on a bender which i know she will do then i reason that there may be a problem with this.
she's been before a year ago before we were going out with the same 2 people and she got off with someone, but thats before were together so i can't say she'll do the same, it just seems that im in 2 minds at the moment and its difficult, one part of my mind says she will the other says she won't.
im just wondering what if in my shoe's you'd think?
would you expect her to cheat seeing as she can
or to remain fateful.

thanks for the help.
i know i sound a tad pathetic but i can't help it , feel so paranoid

[lustforlove]

i have had these feelings about my boyfriend on several occations but not because of alcohole. it's something you have to deal with you need to start to learn to trust her. think about it does she care alot about you? does she have any reason that she would want to hurt you? i meen come on if she was with you at all she wouldn't want to hurt you would she? you just have to tell her that you dont like the idea of her drinking to much and if she cared at all she would take it in and try to be more careful. you are too young to be worried too much either. i suspect that she is probably your first proper girlfriend yes? remember not to worry anything could happen just dont worry about it untill it happens.

[lovesfool]

yeh my first proper girlfriend
ill try, just can be diffucult when you know she'll be clubbing and drinking everynight and getting upto god knows what

[cjb1981]

If you can't trust her, then you shouldn't be with her.

[sera300]

Alcohol only decreases ones inhibitions; meaning they will not do something they are not already inclined to do just a result of ETOH. Trust her.

[lovesfool]

yeh your right, she'd only cheat if she wants to cheat even when drunk.
im sure everything will be fine.
ive just been thinking worse case scenario's since my sister in law and brother were both telling me that she would be fresh meat and everything else and she'd shag anything that would move in spain...

family are great eh....

[lustforlove]

well i'm sure your family are just looking out for you, funny way of doing it but then my family were worse with my first boyfriend lol my dad forced him against a wall and made him swear that he would never hurt me and even now 12 months down the line my dad still thinks that my boyfriend is cheating on me. my dad wont stop telling me that he's not rite for me and that he's going to hurt me. lovily hay? meh if he does hurt me i'll cross that if i come to it untill then i'm going to enjoy the ride!

[Lyon]

Hay dude firstly just want to say, I understand were you're coming from I've been there. What I learned from my experience is DO NOT!!!! make a big deal out of it and DO NOT!!! question her. Every normal boyfriend would be having the same thoughts as you are I know I did but you have to keep these thoughts in check. Think about it if you make a big deal and start moaning about it she's more likely to think f**k him, were as if your supportive and are like hope you have a nice time, make sure you enjoy yourself etc, shes going to think so highly of you and you will be on her mind. Trust me this works DO NOT!!!! make a big deal if you want to talk about it then ok but just dont blame her or accuse her or moan etc ok. Also, and I'm sorry to say this, but men and women cheat on each other all the time, its terrible and I hope you never experience the feeling but if you do. SO WHAT!!! you have to take the attitude of 'aw well her loss' other wise you will drive yourself mad. Just be honest with yourself and say do I trust her if the answer is yes, then when ever you hear that voice doubting you tell him to 'f*** OFF'. You will get through it and you will have your girlfriend at the end of it just dont allow the doubts to consume you. If theres anything I can help you with give me a pm I'd be happy to share my experience's.

[lovesfool]

thanks for all the help
i feel alot better now

[Newtolove]

Originally Posted by lovesfool

yeh your right, she'd only cheat if she wants to cheat even when drunk.
im sure everything will be fine.
ive just been thinking worse case scenario's since my sister in law and brother were both telling me that she would be fresh meat and everything else and she'd shag anything that would move in spain...

family are great eh....

yea no kidding, sometimes when i sit down and think of any present worries I have - guess what family come off on top of the list and it's mine mine let alone hers hehe (but not in the same sense as you problem)