No sex for almost 7 years....

[Kimberleyaloneatlast]

I am recently divorced and during the last seven years of my marriage, my husband would not have sex with me. It became quite humiliating and I got to the point where I hated myself and my body thinking that I must be the cause of his not wanting to be with me. I have been told I'm good looking and I work out about an hour a day, so my body is in pretty good shape. We finally got divorced and I've met someone who is quite eager to "be" with me - my problem is I'm scared to death. I was sure that a man touching me was never going to be a part of my life again and now I'm afraid I won't know what to do. Now that I know that I will be having sex soon, I've gone off the charts on how horny I am. My husband was never able to bring me to organism, so it has been over ten years since I've been with a man who wants to please me and is eager to do so.

Any hints or suggestions on how to not wreck everything by being too anxious and nervous? Should I limit things to just heavy petting or should I just jump right into the deep end?

[oedipussy]

About the only thing you can do is just go with your instincts. Trust me, they'll kick in...

If you're looking for something more than that, I'm sure one of this forum's great advice givers will show up eventually with detailed guides and the like. I'm more of a "go with your gut" kind of guy... Not too great at giving people detailed advice.

[Engage!]

Seven years? Wow. I went for three years at one point, but seven is a long time. From my experience, you fall right back into line. Yeah, your skills might be a bit rusty, but the instinct is the main thing. If people didn't instinctually know how to have sex, how would the human race have survived?

[EvilEvilKitten]

Take a deep breath, relax, and GO FOR IT.

Also read the sticky posts about orgasms. It isn't entirely his job to make you have one. Remember that the first time with a new partner is not as good as the subsequent times will be as you two learn your way around eachother and stop being shy.

[Mike_N]

Originally Posted by Kimberleyaloneatlast

Any hints or suggestions on how to not wreck everything by being too anxious and nervous?

What could you do to wreck everything? You're an attractive, horny woman and you haven't had sex in 7 years. You're a major catch! All you have to do to show this guy a good time is to show up. I say get laid, get your confidence back, and then start worrying about orgasms.