Dating Multiple girls

[thewestisthebest]

Yea yea yea... all I have been hearing from this message board is "date as many people as you can", at my age 17. Well i took that advice and it really is a lot harder than one might think. I'm dating 5 girls right now and talking, let alone going out with is a feat of its own. Plus lt seems like all these girls want is a #$@# boyfriend!!

[JustAGirl]

I was under the impression that the advice dispensed was actually more along the lines of "it's good not to dive into a serious relationship immediately, and is OK and possibly beneficial to have shorter, less meaningful relationships along the way." Not essentially cheating on five different girls.

Please, if I am in error, do correct me so that, as a girl who really dislikes deceit and especially dislikes the thought of someone with whom I believe I am in a relationship actually having several others on the side, I can find whoever advised playing around in this manner, and suggest to them several places they can get off, including at an unplanned "stop" while the train is still moving.

[cjb1981]

Originally Posted by thewestisthebest

"date as many people as you can"

There are quiet a few senior members who do say that. Most of them write intelligent post, and make intelligent arguments when called for. And, many of them are members who usually give good advice. I think that it's stupid as f*ck, to date multiple people at one time, but that's just me. There is absolutely nothing wrong with not getting too serious, or having casual sex. That being said, the person that you're having sex with should know, that's all it is, casual sex.

[demonbuttercup]

LOL
Oh me, well 5 is quite a lot. Whenever I read this, I always pictured maybe 2-3 girls.. not 5.

Hopefully the others will be able to come here and clarify.

[Brandye]

How about taking responsibility for your own actions? And you are learning a major advantage we women have over you men: we do not become sexually drained!

[Raidenator]

Listen man, I think you took them too literally.

I believe they meant to do it one at a time, just don't get too serious. Just bounce around from girl to girl. It's not something you're going to have on your resume. No one will ask, "Why were you with this girl for only two weeks?"

Just have fun man, don't get serious. I wouldn't recommend juggling five girls like that either.

[EvilEvilKitten]

Only 5 ? - says the woman running an 11 man string.

But seriously - if you aren't married to them then it is NOT "cheating" - stop that! If they want a "boyfriend" then move on - gently but you have to be up front about this being just "fun and games" not pair-bonding for life.

Being sincere and honest is more important at this point than being "in love". You have to learn how to be sincere and honest first - it takes courage and tact. Keep it light, friendly, fun, and cheerful.

Also, look at how you're managing your time. 5 girls at once is not impossible but it is unwieldly for a beginner. Invite each out for a specific date or event. Do not forget to reserve time for yourself alone and for hanging out with your buddies.

[EvilEvilKitten]

goforit - sorry but a man's got to know his limitations and 5 women at once can be hell-on-earth! Even doing just two takes practice!

[anotheranon11]

Well... assuming you have every night off a week, try this ^^:
Sunday - Girl 1
Monday - Girl 2
Tuesday - Girl 3
Wednesday - Girl 4
Thursday - Girl 5
Friday - Buddies
Saturday - Alone

Or any variation thereof.

[EDIT] For grammar.

[EvilEvilKitten]

Now try to arrange a schedule for 11, anotheranon11.

I think you'll have to include some lunches and weekend afternoons into it.