Superficial attraction - should I feel bad about it?

[wet_suit_one]

The fact that I'm a bit superficial in what I find attractive in a woman?

Example, I'm very attracted to the fitness model body type. If there's a woman fitting that mold in the room, that's the one I like.

I find many other women quite attractive, but the fitness model mold is the one made for me.

I'll ask her what books she's read recently, what she does for a living and how she got to where she is today.

I'll ask her about her workout routine (sometimes they don't ) and so forth.

While I know my attraction to the woman is purely physical (those abs, those arms and tight butts! ), I think my line of questioning shows that I'm not a completely shallow man.

What do you ladies think here? I'm becoming more and more concerned about being a sexist pig lately for some reason, so I'm trying to make sure I'm not one.

That said, we like what we like and why should I be castigated for liking what I like?

I'm interested in hearing your view.

The Wet One

[Brandye]

The first thing we notice about anyone is the body type. If that is all that matters, you are a pig. If it is simply the stepping off point, you are like the rest of us. I am not aware of anyone castigating you

[kittykat78]

i agree. i think we all have to have an attraction towards someone for starters. i can find one guy's eye completely hypnotizing, while another guy's smile might win me over. i used to be really attracted to big and buff guys, but as i grew up i realized that some of those guys had nothing to offer. now i don't focus merely on the outside - if one little thing about him catches my eye and we hit it off in every other aspect, then why should i make a big deal that he's got a little belly or perhaps he's not as tall as i typically like and so forth. what you need to think about is that you're putting so much emphasis on the physical - what happens if you marry that fitness model and 10 years down the road she's gained 30lbs and isn't that type anymore???

[Raidenator]

You're fine man. Just don't look at the girls you meet as though you were gonna get into their pants and I wouldn't consider you a pig.

I believe a physical attraction is imperitive to a good relationship, at least before marriage. Not to say that after marriage you should let yourself go, but at that point you should love your mate for their personality etc.

Anyway, I think you're fine. Just as long as you word everything in a good way that doesn't make it sound like all you're after is their body then it's ok.

[EvilEvilKitten]

Not a problem, but you will find that your 'tastes' will change over time as you gain more experience and your own needs change. Eventually you'll find that it is the person not the packaging that matters.

[rdhdliz22]

Who cares??? You shouldn't. You like what you like. Its what turns you on. Everyone's superficial at first...they see someone that physically attracts them and they make a move. The only problem with what attracts you is that you may have a harder time finding a woman that lives up to the whole fitness model ideal. Make sure to look over the other women in the room too, as they may not be the whole package, but they're halfway there. I mean, no one's perfect! And who knows...they could be working out at the moment to get rid of those flabby arms or whatever isn't in tip top shape.

[EvilEvilKitten]

There is that whole KARMA thing where what you give you end up getting - so as this fellow ages and is perhaps not as HUNK as he used to be.....do you see?

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Originally Posted by EvilEvilKitten

There is that whole KARMA thing where what you give you end up getting - so as this fellow ages and is perhaps not as HUNK as he used to be.....do you see?

That's what plastic surgery and adultery are for.

[Ephemera]

That sure was a witty phrase. Even as jokes go, that's completely not the advice you should be giving the OP.

I love how you edited it for "grammer"

[EvilEvilKitten]

Sorry, but it is "grammar".

As to that not being the right advice: One should always bear in mind that "there but for the grace of God, go I".