Summing up – If men leave will they come back?

[Flutter]

Summing up – If men leave will they come back?

I posted this at the end of the topic that I started that lead me to this conclusion. In the hope of helping others, I thought more people might read my conclusion if I stared a new topic.

I guess the only thing that I have really learned from this site and others, is that nobody really knows and everybody thinks differently. The only thing I feel I can personally do is just wait, because in my mind, he is the one that broke up with me by the way he was acting and pushing me away emotionally. I know I was the one that ultimately said the words, “I am through”, but I feel he is the one that broke up or at least checked out of the relationship first, without any real explanation and, when I did say that we were through, I really never got much of a reaction and he never said anything.

I have realized from reading on this forum and some others, that every guy may react differently in this situation. Some my never give into male pride and contact the girl again. Others tell me that it takes up to three months. Others say that he will go out and realize that what he was missing is not all that he thought and the pain of missing the girl will eventually be worse than what he was feeling when he wanted his freedom.

The only two things that I have heard that seem to be pretty common and seems to be a universal consensus, is (1) that the stronger his love was prior to things starting to go bad, the more likely it is that he is to start missing you, wanting to try again and to contact you and (2) if you call first, you will push him away further.

So, I guess in these situations, the ball is in the guy’s court.

[sera300]

Some do and some do not. Do not wait around for anyone, move on with your life. If he/she returns, listen, think it through, and remember why you split & their lack of wanting to work it out, and their need to abandon a relationship...this provides insight into how some resolve conflict--they run.

In general, after a split & a return, the relationship still ends since the same issues arise again--the positive dynamics are missing.

[kpodo]

my x and i split up for 3 months over some petty stuff. when i found out she was seeing someone else i wised up and realized what i was doing so that might be your best play. we got back together but it doesnt always work out like that.

[sera300]

I notice she is referred to as your "x"? I assume in the end you split!

[Newtolove]

hm and you know just another "e" and "x" would be "ex" easier to understand i began the hunt for "y" and "z" thinking yours was going to be a mathematical explanation....

[sera300]

Originally Posted by Newtolove

hm and you know just another "e" and "x" would be "ex" easier to understand i began the hunt for "y" and "z" thinking yours was going to be a mathematical explanation....

Math? Is that what you thought I was writing? LOL! Want me to post up some of my stat's course work & you can help me out? LOL!

[Newtolove]

I was actually after Kpodo that did it first i assumed you were very accurately quoting him, no please don't bring me any of your maths it would put me to shame I am/was a disaster in algebra just plain english maths please

[sera300]

Originally Posted by Newtolove

I was actually after Kpodo that did it first i assumed you were very accurately quoting him, no please don't bring me any of your maths it would put me to shame I am/was a disaster in algebra just plain english maths please

Okay NTL...I will spare you!! LOL!