Should Age Really matter here?

[Lightning]

Im a 22 year old guy and im MAture then most guys of the way they act. However it seems younger women i can't deal with there games... I like women that are 31 or older but im seeing this women who is 43 she is beautiful... I get told i should not go for it.. What should i do. i like her for what she is

[Godiva]

If you like her, then go for it. While I personally wouldn't date someone who is about 20 years my senior, it is your feelings that truly matter. Do what makes you happy.

[TheSenseMaker33]

I'll be honest on this..I've always been EXTREMELY mature for my age and couldn't stand at 17 to date 17,18 or even 19 year olds I had to date a 24 year old...it was the only way I was "satisfied"...I do believe if your going to go after her...make sure she can see your extremely mature..a lot of women assume most of the time..(like myself) that anyone their age or less will be extremely immature..

in my case I think age shouldn't matter..you like someone you like someone..
but i will say that i've never been (like stated before) one to date younger guys..the youngest i've dated is my current and he's 2 1/2 years older than me..thats a stretch for me usually no less than 3 or 4 yrs....but he's extremely mature for his age and I don't have to put up with stupid games normally.
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hope that helped a little.

[dancingdoc2]

Intellectual maturity as with physical maturity is one thing, life experience and the maturity this brings is quite difference. Being older, having experienced more of life places her on not only a different page but a different chapter than you. Living life has a way of maturing a person that pure intellect and book learning will not accomplish.

So, while you may act and think in a manner wiser than your age and for people you know that are your age, you have a ways to go--as we all do in seeing life and managing it from a perspective seen by someone older.

If you have the same likes and interests and values, then why not form a very good friendship. Being friends, first, makes it possible to have a relationship beyond friendship. Once you have a friendship in place and a social calendar that the two of you enjoy, then you can evaluate whether a relationship beyond friendship is possible.

Looking at things from her point of view, what do you have to offer her?
* Can you support her or at least contribute significantly to the household income?
* Are you saving money or spending every cent you earn?
* What part from your chapter of life makes a relationship with you worthwhile--rock-hard penis aside?
* While she may be planning for her retirement, are you?
* Do you want children? Does she?
* If she has children, do you want to be a fifth-wheel to help raise them?
* What sort of relationship will you have with them? Often a step parent runs into very difficult challenges when it comes to help raising someone elses children. Nowhere is this more evident than in diciplining them--quite simply, you cannot. This does not mean that you are not capable, just that it cannot be your job, it is hers and hers alone.

These are the types of issues that you have to look at besides animal magnetism and common interests.

[Engage!]

I wouldn't do it, but then I've always been uncomfortable with vastly older and younger women. My wife and I are almost exactly the same age, so it's a good match. If you're dating someone twice your age, you have to remember that when you're forty-two she'll be nearly retirement age! When youre fifty-two she'll be in her seventies! So, when you are still fairly young, she will be getting pretty old. Can you deal with that? I see what you're saying about the maturity level (my wife is 25 but acts like a teenager), but is it really worth it?

[Suki2007]

I think it really depends on what you want and what she wants out of the relationship. I mean, if it is a serious long term thing that you both want, I think there could be some pretty vast differences. But, again, it does depend on each person involved; some older people relate better to much younger people and some younger people relate better to much older people. If the two of you are considering getting together, I would just talk with her about what she wants and expects out of the relationship and after you have that info, you can see if it's something you want, too.

[curious_woman]

My fiancée is 6.5 years older than I am, but we hardly ever notice it unless someone brings it up. I would say we're in the same generation though, we remember the same/similar shows as kids, music styles, clothing, fads, etc. Personally I prefer older men and women, but I'd rather not date anyone older than 30 atm, because its a total different head space than mine. I don't mean to generalize and don't take offense because I know not everyone is this way lol but, but a lot of people around 30 are focused on their careers, buying a home, and having kids. I still want to go to university, travel, explore, do daring things before I settle down, even though I do want those things...just not yet!

If you intend this to be a casual relationship, then I say go for it since matters like these won't be an issue. Long term...well...look what other people said, when you are just settling into a "quiet" adult life etc she'll be almost retiring.

[aussiegal]

hi, i dont think age really matters. i've been with my man for 10yrs this july. i'm 26 and his 38. we have a 9 yr old son. age has never been a problem for us. if you dont have a problem with it then go for it. if it makes you happy than thats all that should matter. good luck

[4love]

Age difference is not a matter as long as it is less than five or six years. It does involve a lot of issues like some others mentioned above, if it is 10+ years, particularly when it is the male who's younger and not the other way round.

But, as long as you are enjoying each other's company, no point to stop the relationship because of age. Just be honest and let her know what to expect, you can meet someone your age sometime in the future - may be one month, may be two years later, nobody knows. Don't make her or yourself have the false impression that you are looking at long term.

You will know after a few months or so, that if you want to keep it long term. Good luck.