So Much Drama

[xkatex]

As some people might know I had this thing with the quartback....didnt work out just wanted to get laid as I thought. I got over that after a while and ended up talking to this one guy. We use to hate eachother back wheni was in grade 5(lol) but we started talking again and went on a sorta date. We went to his family bbq and everything was dandy. lol in mid convo he stopped, looked me in the eye and said "I really wanna kiss you right now" and me, being a modest girl, said "we'll see" we were gonna go out for ice cream but that got cancelled and he said he'll take me out the next day. So i went in the house all happy and pleasent then my dad comes to be and said this guy(who is my guys bestfriend) called asking were I was and for my cell number. I was kinda confused but didnt think much of it,

Since my night got cut short I went to my neighbours to watch a chick flick. When we came back from the movie store tehre were two cars in her lane way. We got outta the car and it was his best friend and a few of his other friends. They started cussing and asking where the **** he was and my neighbour did the talking just saying that she might have saw him in town.

Then his bestfriend looked at me, pointed his finger and yelled "You, you ****ed everything up" then he got back into his vehicle and drove away.

I dont know whats going on with that. My bestfriend and I talked about it and I thought maybe my guy might have ditched his friends to hang out with me or something. He didnt break up wit his ex about 3 weeks ago but I dont know why his friends would be in on anything like that. I ended up e-mailing him asking whats going on and he told me his friends have his password and stuff so I shouldnt e-mail him but he said he'd see me or call me about going out for icecream and stuff.

WHATS GOING ON!! am I setting myself up for another heart break? Should I be worried about his ex coming for me(shes a big scrapper)? What could his friends possibley be so pissed off about, my friends would NEVER do that. Should I keep trying with this guy or is it a lost cause? PLEASE HELP ME!!!

[sera300]

Think about what is safe for you. Do you really want to hang out w/someone who let's his friends do this irrational behavior? meaning intimidating! Either he straightens his buddies out or you find a new boyfriend to date.

[xkatex]

Well I just talked to him like a minute ago and he apologized for his friends and he explain that a few years back his brother got jumped and someone said it was me who had him jumped but it wasnt and thats all straightened out. Then he had said that his ex found out we hung out and now she wants him back and he said he still likes her but hes not dating her n stuff and he asked if i still wanted to go for ice cream...n yes I want ice cream lol. But thats beside the point....is this a lost cause? should i fight for him or should I just step away and let it all go?

[dancingdoc2]

Heck if I know what is going on.
One thing that is obvious is that there is an excess amount of testosterone floating around.

This is the second example, today, of why dating exclusively is not a wise thing when so young. Rather than hooking up with the first warm body who shows an interest, I am with others who belong to the school of thought that it is much better to date lots of people, none exclusively. You eliminate all the drama, angst, and heartache, while learning more about people in general and what humanity has to offer. Also, you gain maturity, insight, and develop your ability to work and play well with others.

Here is the first example:

[sera300]

I don't buy his story...his friends said "You f**** everything up"? And now he comes up with this lame excuse? What type of people are you hanging out with? Think abut your future. Date many people & learn what you like in an individual.

[xkatex]

Ya i know it doesnt make sense. My neighbour goes to school with his friends and she told me they always blow things outta porpotion and stuff. But its like I feel like if I have a chance with him Im gonna fight for it but if I dont im just not gonna bother but I dont know like its hard to explain. Like i really do like this guy and i wanna try hard for it but i dont wanna deal with everything else and I no the smart thing to do is walk away but ya......easier said then done

[dancingdoc2]

I believe you need to have an introspective look at yourself and why you are willing to fight for and to settle for such behavior and low standards in a person.

A relationship, be it a friendship or a marriage, is a partnership in which two people either associate or join forces for the common good of each. Both work to compliment the other. A relationship is where both people choose to be. A relationship is not one person dominating the other or taking advantage of the other. A relationship is not one individual putting the other person down while seemingly making him- herself more important or correct. A relationship should be greater than the sum of it's two parts.

[xkatex]

Also it feels like this is the only chance ill ever have with him you know. Likes it weird and yes ive been told just to walk away but its hard. Honestly I need someone to give me a step by step of what I should do.....

[Raidenator]

Forget him. That's about all I have to say.

It appears to me that he's trying to hide you from his friends. It sounds as if he doesn't want his friends to know that he likes you/ is dating you. By telling you not to email him, and by him not telling his friends where he is etc. that just shows a lot of insecurity about a relationship with you.

You talk to him about it and make sure he's honest. I honestly believe he's just trying to have the best of both worlds, and it seems his friends are jackasses.

[xkatex]

Ya...I was talking to a few friends of mine and they all have mixed feelings about it. One of my good friends said to go for it but to be careful and ask him straight up if theres anything thats gonna happen between us or if its pointless. But first of all that would be awqard and second I dont know how I could word that properly. On a scale from 1-10 I like this guy 7ish. I know the obvious thing to do is to walk away but its so much harder to do.