On our first date...

[Katnawlins]

I just went on a first date with this great guy. We didn't have sex, but we did everything else. Do you think he'll call me? Or did... I don't know I've never gone that far with someone with hardly knowing them, and definetly not on a first date. I'm 20 and he's 24, and there was no pressure. I did everything I wanted to do. But I do like him. After we were done, and I was heading out the door, he kept saying how amazing it was, and actually said, "You're well... wow. you're wow" So good sign right?

Also another problem I'm going to be out of town for the week. Anyway, I'm confused and happy and anxious. any advice?

[dancingdoc2]

> We didn't have sex, but we did everything else. Do you think he'll call me?

All this on the first date with someone you really do not know?

A lot of guys that may or may not include him do not have much respect for this kind of behavior.

On the other hand a guy will often say and do almost anything to have an orgasm with someone. Only you can decide whether this is true of him or that he was genuinely pleased.

Will he call you? Heck if I know.

> Also another problem I'm going to be out of town for the week. Anyway, I'm confused and happy and anxious. any advice?

Tell him when you will be be home and that you look foreward to his call.
Or, tell him you will call him when you return. Of the two, I prefer the first.

Give him your cell phone number and tell him you are available between the hours of x and y if he wants to call. If you do not want to give the number out, then tell him the number where you will be staying.

[Brandye]

Call him when you get back.

[emerald52781]

There's never a clear answer to this question. Not all men will react the same to going at it the very first date. Some will think you're easy and lose respect for you. Others are just so into you and think you're great and want to show you that physically. If you have his number, then call him when you get back from being out of town. If he's not there then just leave one and only one message. If he calls you back then great, but if he doesn't then forget about him.

[Rail]

You did good, some guys need this kind of thing to know you really dig them.
He will call you, just make sure to answer!

[4love]

I had the same question before. Same as you did, it was my first time "doing everything else except really having sex" with a guy on the first date.

I was a little confused at first, you know, getting intimate with someone you have yet to know deeply. But it just come naturally, I was kind of following his lead, at first it was to please him but later on I was into it as well. I don't think there's anything wrong with that.

[EvilEvilKitten]

It depends upon his experience level and what he's looking for.

1. Either he's thrilled you chose him or he's thinking you're indiscriminant.
2. If his aim is 'fun and games' okay; if it is family and kids, maybe not so much.

Call him when you get back and invite him out on a specific date - not just to hang out.

[LoveGems]

I would think that he would call you, it sounds positive, if he doesn't call then give him a ring, if he doesn't sound very enthusiastic about meeting again then just move on.

Good Luck.

[Katnawlins]

Haha sorry I should have responded sooner. We texted back and forth almost everday since while I was away, and when he came back he called and wanted to meet up again. So we're going on a "second date" tonight. Good sign, right? Now if I can get back my earrings-- it would be perfect


thanks for all the advice, too

[dancingdoc2]

> We didn't have sex, but we did everything else.... I've never gone that far with someone with hardly knowing them, and definetly not on a first date.

Have a great second date!

Please consider tantalizing him and holding his interest and anticipation by what you do to captivate him, not what you give away. I'm not suggesting that you be a "cock teaser", just that you do not do "everything else" quite so quickly and freely. Keep him wanting and coming back for more for several more dates.

Let him fall for the essence of you, first, before you give away the proverbial farm. If you continue the physical aspects of a new relationship so soon there may be less interest on his part in establishing an emotional bond. So, tonight, if things become heated, I suggest telling him that you want to go slow, "taking our time" in order to "smell the roses" along the way to the destination...just something to think about.