guy opinions

[maybeline]

so i know every guy is different and all
but i just want some input on some(preferably 16-19ish ages)
because i was with this guy and we were going smoothly, but he left to Europe for a month. yes i know europe, i dont expect him to stay away from girls since we arnt going out..but his friends keep asking me about stuff we did, so i guess that means he tells them things...but ireally dont know if he will like me at all when he comes back

if this happened to you, would you still go home to a girl and feel the same way..b/c he hasnt talked wrote IMed or anything to me since he left..:[
help

[Engage!]

A month isn't that long. Just because his friends ask doesn't mean he tells them things. They just assume perhaps by the way he talks that he really likes you, and so they have ideas. If he likes you, he will come back to you. I wouldn't think it would be that hard to keep away from the girls for a month. I've done it for longer than that, so I know it can be done.

Bottom line, I would go home to a girl and feel the same way IF I liked her. How long has it been since you last communicated? That might tell you if he likes you or not.

And, a tip: Just b/c you aren't "going out" doesn't mean there's no commitment. I wasn't officially "going out" with my wife until about two weeks before I married her! And we'd been in a relationship for sixteen months before that.

[maybeline]

hm, its been almost 2 weeks.
congrats on that
i like to hear you too are so happy

i guess just two more weeks ill find out

[~*GenericUserName*~]

Weird coincidence! Before my boyfriend and I ever got together, back in high school when I was in 11th and he was in 12th grade, he went on a month-long trip to Europe too, with his friend's family during Christmas time. At that point we were definitely not a couple (I didn't even know whether or not I liked him 'in that way' at the time) we were just really great friends. I'll never forget when he told me that he was going away for a month though, I was damn near heartbroken about it! I think that all along, I really did like him, but I just never let myself believe it because well, to be honest, I never in a million years would have thought he would like ME back.

Even though I'm sure it cost a fortune for him, he called me at least 3 or so times during his trip (one being on Christmas eve) to let me know how it was going, to ask about me, and to keep in touch.

He's told me, since we've been together, that he felt so sad about not seeing me while he was gone for so long that he almost felt like crying. I can't remember his exact reasoning, but basically it was because he knew that he liked me and he just missed me. He has no idea how wonderful that can make a girl feel! To this day I still feel so silly for never realizing the feelings I had for him sooner. I mean, it wasn't until the Valentine's Day he 'asked me out' that I really realized just how much of a crush I had on him! I remember being a little flirtatious as friends, even though I never thought he really liked me like that.

Anyway, I know that doesn't really have anything to do with your post. It's just that the mention of a trip to Europe sparked some memories. =) Good luck to you. If he does like you, he will surely show it once he comes back. Likewise, if he has strong feelings for you, he won't even touch another girl. If not, then he's not worth your time!

[maybeline]

AWW. i loved hearing that story


thats almost exacly how we are
except he hasnt talked to me since he left
he doesn't even know how much that bugs me!!!!
all i want is a hey!!!!!!hows it going!
but no

its halfway there...cant wait to find out how this goes

thanks for that story though
gives me hope :]

[Engage!]

It is hard sometimes to communicate with others when on a trip. Calls are expensive, and he may be unsure of how you feel and doesn't want to express his feelings prematurely. (I've been to Europe, and I know that it can be difficult to find internet cafes......)

[Browser]

My girlfriend is in Europe until August. We're taking a week off from work together when she gets back.

[Ephemera]

My girl friend's in Europe for a month too... quel le f*ck? Why is everybody in Europe??

She's there for a school trip; she's very busy. She's called me twice, she's been gone for a week and a half. I'm not complaining, as we're in a long distance relationship anyway, but I do miss talking to her.

Nothing you can do but wait it out, OP. Make yourself busy - go out with your girl friends, pick up a new book, anything. Once he gets back, move things along.

[Carrina]

My husband is deployed overseas and is getting back tonight or tomorrow around 11 ish. He is taking off 3 weeks so we can 'catch up.' lol

But since he has been gone he gets really busy and i will not hear from him for periods of time. I would get worried and then bam, i get a short but sweet email. Then next morning a very limited 15 min phone call.