She's Going Away, Sick Feeling In My Stomach

[depressed121212]

My girlfriend (who I've been going out with for about 3.5 months) is going down to North Carolina, to hang with her friend for about 10 days. He friend is a bit of a whore... and she gets with everyone, and I'm afraid they'll be drinking down there and my girlfriend will do something with someone while she's drunk. She's a small girl so she gets drunk easily... and I just dont want her to drink and have something happen down there that she regrets. I mean i trust her completeley but I mean i dont want anything to happen. it makes me feel sick to my stomach. Also, were both 16 and cant drive.

[sera300]

At 16, she should not be drinking. Alcohol only serves to decrease inhibitions enabling people to do "things" they normally would not have but still have a desire to do. If you trust her, then show it.

[Engage!]

It would make me sick, too. I used to drink some when I was a teenager, and I stopped because of what alcohol does to your inhibitions. Since you can't drive, there's not much you can do except sit, wait, and hope. Show trust in her, but you've only been with her for 3.5 months so she's not a major investment yet. It's too early to say that you love her, but too late such that if something does happen you won't avoid emotional pain. The best thing you can do now is to trust her, and if something does happen, forgive, and try to make BOTH of you forget. Hope for the best, prepare for the worst, and show trust.

[jvriffel]

Don't ask, if you trust her it shouldn't matter. Just enjoy her when she returns and if she decides to tell you something happened or not then you can deal with it. Dwelling on it beforehand will only make it worse.

[curious_woman]

Originally Posted by Engage!

. Show trust in her, but you've only been with her for 3.5 months so she's not a major investment yet. It's too early to say that you love her, but too late such that if something does happen you won't avoid emotional pain. The best thing you can do now is to trust her, and if something does happen, forgive, and try to make BOTH of you forget. Hope for the best, prepare for the worst, and show trust.

I agree with this 100%. If you have no trust, then you don't have anything, that is the utmost important factor in a relationship, along with honesty.

[Ephemera]

Tell her the truth - tell her that you're worried about what may happen to her if she drinks too much. Tell her that there are guys who would try to take advantage of her in her innebriated state.

Ask her, honestly and sincerely, not to drink too more than a shot or two. If you want, ask her to text you before she goes out and then when she gets back to her friend's house. This has nothing to do with thinking she'll cheat on you - bad things can happen to girls at parties. She'll appreciate your being worried for her well being.

[dancingdoc2]

If you have complete trust in her then why the post?

I agree with the replies given.