HOw to avoid topic ending words..?

[lansing]

I like this girl at work, and i am sure she likes me too.
like the tittle, I am only a high school student that works in a supermarket and is inexperienced with girls, I can manage to chat with girls, just that sometimes when i manage to create a conversation I often end up saying something that would end the conversation into a awakward silence.

Well basically I think this happens to alot of guys out there like me, and I would just like to ask for afew advices...
I know I have to avoid saying "oh ok", since it's a topic killer, but are there anything I can use to replace this, even though I have nothing to contribute but can atleast keep her talking? and also I would rather like to know does the tone or way you reply to a girl affect their willingness to keep talking? Lastly, if you do happen to accidentally said the wrong thing and end the conversation (or bring it to a halt before it gets to awakward silence), is there anyway out? I've heard that when that happens you can ask something about herself, but sometimes it's just awakard to ask her questions... maybe I can't think of a decent thing to ask, so what sort of things do I ask?


I tried to look for these advice around the web, but all of them requires you to purchase books...
If would be great for any advices.. even just answer one of them would be sooo much appreciated.
Cheers

[sera300]

Ask her what she does in her spare time. Any plans for the summer? Do you usually go there? Do you enjoy football games? And which teams? The weather and how hot it is or cold; ask open ended questions my dear!

[Alexandra]

When I was a teenager, I hung out with a guy, who sounded very much like you. He would drive an hour to see me, than say, like two words to me the whole time. lol. I couldn't figure out if he loved me or hated me.
After a few weeks of this, I just asked him why he never talked to me, after going through so much trouble, to see me. He said he was intimidated, because I was so pretty and outgoing. How sweet is that? I was flattered, and appreciated his honesty. It gave us a lot of things to talk about, before you knew it, I couldn't shut him up. (witch was a good thing)
So my advise is: the next time you see her, and end up standing there in silence, just put your self out there. Say: I'm sorry. I really like talking to you but I get so nervous. Tell her the you don't want to say the wrong thing, because you like her, so you find your self saying nothing. Than make a joke like: Maybe I could take you to a movie, you don't do much talking in a movie. Ha ha ha.
I'm sure she will be flattered, and impressed by your honesty. Once you have told her how you feel, and are not rejected, you will be much more confident.
If you don't think you can do that, than practice on a girl that you don't "like like", to get more comfortable.
Good luck! Let us know how it all turns out.

[sera300]

Much truth to what Alexa said! We become silent since we do not know how to interpret the awkward silence or "pregnant pauses"! We are wondering do you hate us or like us. Break the ice and be honest w/her; therefore, she can pick up the conversation, you will find the conversation flow goes better!

[khatzeen]

Like you i'm fairly inexperienced with girls. I however have learnt a few things in my dating attempts. First get her talking about herself by asking an open-ended question like Sera said. Next when you get to one of thoes points when she asks somthing to the extent of "do you understand? are you listening?" acknowledge her both vocally and with your body. Look into her eyes as she talks and when its your turn to respond try nodding your head slightly and say somthing like "sure".

Instead of "oh ok" being my conversation killer its "that makes since". i don't know why but i always deserve a slap to the face when i utter thoes words.

[PowerRanger]

my favorite line is,
did you kno that every 7 minutes the conversation dies?
it usually sparks some kind of response.

[EvilEvilKitten]

Yes, the way you say something will affect how your message is received.
A calm manner and sparkling eyes will get you further than a tongue-tied stammering approach, for example. If you scan the headlines every morning, you'll always have a topic to discuss ready!