Best Friend

[CN15]

Ok, well me and my best friend having been going to school, for about ten years now, we have dated in the past, had a year of not being as close, but we got closer about two years ago, she had a boyfriend, I had a girlfriend, and we both now are single, but still good friends. But I always knew she still had feelings for me still, and I somewhat did too, but for me there was this non- attractive feeling towards her, but after last night when we were sitting watching a movie, we kissed, for a goood amount of time, and then she left. My problem though is she broke up with one of my good friends, and he knew I didnt have feelings for her then, but I am starting to believe I do now. I also dont want him to think like I went in from the ground and have him pissed at me. So, help please any suggestions on what I can do?

[lustforlove]

so do you find this girl attractive at all?

[CN15]

yeah i do, shes really pretty, but i think i have overcome that problem, but the bigger problem is that my goood buddy is "in love" with her, and i dont wanna be a ass, and just do a huge cock block type thing. Along with that I told him that she didnt mean anything to me a couple of months ago but now its changed.

[sera300]

Does she have mutual feelings for you? Find out. If she is someone you have a future with; talk to your friend and tell him exactly what you said here. You and your buddy are friends, you hang out, similar interests, similar tastes, stand to reason you would both fall for the same woman.

But you have to be certain he does not feel they are going to get back together. Be honest with him and realize you will most likely lose one of them.

My brother was friends w/a woman all through school, just really good friends. MANY years later, they woke up and found they had feelings for each other. She had been dating one of his distant friends & they split, suddenly these two were an item. They just found what they wanted in each other & now married 10 years. Needless to say, they are not friends with his distant buddy.

Be upfront, see what he thinks of the relationship meaning does he believe it's over? And what are her feelings for you? Check both parts out before you do anything. She may not want to be in a relationship right now, depends on her feelings (or lack of) for your friend.

[CN15]

I did talk to her and she has the same for me, so more than likely we will be going out. And I know that she and my buddy wont get back together, cuz he sorta went over the edge with her and she dislikes him major now. But I like her and she likes me, but I donno how to break it to him, my problem from us being such great friends is gone and now this one is broughten up

[sera300]

You need to tell him the truth & let him know you have had feelings for her but out of respect for him you were silent. Now, they are not together he should respect your feelings.

[Introspect]

If he really is your friend then he wouldn't/shouldn't let this bother him too much.
Especially if she has made it abundantly clear that they are finished and not gettign together again.
But I wish you luck.

[EvilEvilKitten]

Once again this being exclusive in high school has got to stop! Sera, what are you going on about 'a future with this girl'? Come on - these people are just practicing here. None of them are anywhere near ready for a 'relationship' or a 'future'.

Look, dude, talk to her and talk to your buddy. Then make a decision.

[sera300]

Missed the high school part. Read it as friends through school and over 10 years.

[Newtolove]

hold it she broke up with him and now wants to get with you ? so what's the problem ? get with her they broke up its finished in the past