Ok now this is crazy / lots of lies.. I dont know what to do

[evobyte]

Ok well I first met my girlfriend at the club 2 months ago. I go up to her at the club because she was looking at me " im like omg this girl is so beautifull! " I ask her to dance she like say's " no " so I say fine and walk away, she comes up to me and just grabs me and starts dancing with me! The reason why she didn't dance with me when I asked her is because she felt like she couldn't dance. So I ask her how old she is she says 20, and I say im 18. So the next day I talk to her on the phone she is like " my pussy is wet blah blah all we do is talk about ****ing. So we met up she ****s me. So we do it every day straight... She is driving a Mercedez M30 or w.e SUV really expensive im like **** what a rich girl! So we start getting more involved socialy and talking about are live's she is like she has to tell me something but she doesn't want to hurt me because she doesn't want me to leave her she just want's to enjoy me, and im like baby you dont have to hide nothing for me so she tells me she is 24 im like ahhh well I understand why you lied to me you wanted me to get to know you for who you are and stuff so I didnt mind... then couple day's later she says she doesnt want to hurt me then she says she is 25..... im like omfg whats next your 35??? Just be completly open with me! So by this point you know im really liking this girl alot we are both crazy over eachother we talk on the phone for ever and ever and ever, and we can hang out all day. So I just want her to be completly honest because I am starting to love this girl. So im in the car with her I find out she has a kid thats " 4 " Im like noooooo.. So I accepted that because I am happy with this girl I start going to her house lovely family / mom / brother / sister... real cool people I play with the kid alot because his father really isnt in his life. So any way im realy attacthed to this girl... So I find out she is 30... im like ok time to come out with your whole book of secrets just tell me. She is saying all I do is care for you I dont want to hurt you and stuff so im still with her I accept that.! But latly she is going to her cusiens house alot im thinking she is cheating on me, everytime I would call her she would have her cellphone off for 2-3 hours straight... The first time it happened I was cool with it for after like 5 times... I start asking her all this questions so she says she is a Female Escort very emoitional!!! So im like OMFG..... So she has been doing that **** sense she has been with me.! So she says its becuz she has a kid she needs to support him its good money she needs to help her mom pay rent!! So im kinda in a huge place right now.. Help is seriouslly needed as I am depressed, angry, sad becuz I dont want this girl that I can spend all the time in the world with her and not get sick of her.... It's gonna be easy to give your judgement from the outside, but your not feeling with the person in the inside is.

[demonbuttercup]

Ok, first off...please don't triple post!!!!!

Now to your post... get away from this chick asap... I would have bolted when the ages started going up and especially when I found out about the kid. I mean she wants you emotionally involved so that when she DOES finally tell you her secrets... you have a hard time just walking out.

The female escort thing is a little much. A lot of single mothers manage finding other jobs.... so does she actually have sex w/ these guys?? oral? HJs? What's the limit... Im not familiar.
Anyhoo, if she is w/ a lot of guys... you are putting yourself at risk when there is no need for it.
Plus, you said she has a nice car, etc. She is accustomed to this higher standard of living...and I doubt she'll be wanting to give it up anytime soon.

Dude, you are 18!!! no matter how much you think you "love" this women..it's lust! Don't wreck yourself and your life....you are young... you have plenty of time to settle down!

[Engage!]

What kind of relationship develops from meeting in a club? Use common sense, and judge accordingly. Try dating a girl you've known for a while.

[wellmannered_squirrel]

Originally Posted by Engage!

What kind of relationship develops from meeting in a club? Use common sense, and judge accordingly. Try dating a girl you've known for a while.

What is your concept of helpfulness.


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I would recommand taking your distance with the girl while you clear things up. You should have a good conversation with her. Make sure you don't start to look at the issue on the premise that you are in love with her, that will result in faulty thinking and make you biased.


The fact that she is 30 and have a child is not negative in my sense.
But as Demon pointed out, the fact that she is an escort only to help her child but drives a mercedes is utterly contradictory.

[eminatic]

Originally Posted by evobyte

Ok well I first met my girlfriend at the club

there's your problem.

also that post was the longest run-on sentence i've ever seen. :|

[Godiva]

Maybe you feel for her, but I would strongly suggest leaving her. Just hear me out. You're 18, is it really worth tying yourself down to relationship built on just sex, lies, and physical attraction?
I would also ask that you reflect on your feelings for her. Alright, maybe you care about her, but after only 2 months of knowing her can you truly be in love with her? I'd ask yourself if it is lust, pity, or desperation.
I noticed you kept saying "girl" in your post. Evobyte, she's not a girl. She's a 30-year-old woman with a child, which is a huge responsibility.
She has lied to you, and you think she is cheating. It does not make sense that you would still consider being with her.
She is treating you like a child, which in comparison to her, you are. You're obsessed with her, and you're young and easily manipulated. I'm not sure that you are to her, what you feel she is to you.
Do yourself a favor and leave her.

[wellmannered_squirrel]

I understand evobyte sounds prey to his own emotions but ..

Originally Posted by Godiva

I noticed you kept saying "girl" in your post. Evobyte, she's not a girl. She's a 30-year-old woman with a child, which is a huge responsibility.

It is not his child but hers, therefore it is her responsibility, not his. What's wrong with dating a woman who's a mother.


Admit that you feel uncomfortable that a 18 year old dates a 30 year old mother but please don't act like it's absolute truth that the relationship will fail. Your whole post is shameful. One of every three words you wrote is hyperbole.

"relationship built on just sex, lies and physical attraction" --> that's flat out exaggeration.
same thing for the lust, pity, desperation line.



Picture yourself in the skin of a 30 yr old escort with a child. How can you date anyone without lying to them during the beginning of the relationship, especially if 1out2 people is narrowminded like you.

[Ephemera]

I'm with Godiva. Trust is everything - it doesn't sound like she's been very trustworthy.

[sera300]

I guess upon all the lies about her age, the real question is how do you have a romantic relationship (w/sex) knowing she is being paid to do the wild thing with other men? At 18, he thought he was meeting a normal 20 year old. Upon disclosing truthful information, she's 30! I agree, in her position I would be difficult being upfront about your occupation when you first meet someone but all the lies on top of this? This kid posted another question; trying to find out if she is possibly pregnant. Brandye also responded re: the need for STD testing. He should have used protection but finding out your g/f is an escort? WOW. There is nothing left to salvage, as Demon said she is used to the lifestyle, it's not as if she is going to change over to housekeeping services to support her! A 30 year old woman with a 4 year old child, knows better then to lure an 18 year old. That would be like me dating at 27 year old! What's the attraction? They have so much in common?