paranoia, confusion and anger(girlfriend issues)

[Lovesdesire]

i know all of the above are base emotions but right now im feeling them all.
let me explain.
i went over to my girlfriends house (some family thing) a guy she had intimate relations with came aswell (her family does'nt know) hes 29 and she was 15 when they were "intimate" well i figure this is wrong and disgusting but its none of my business to be honest as it happened before me but it has popped up as she was on about how they were awkward and werent talking ect ect, i just feel like the guy in the back ground, i can see she obvously still has feelings for him as i can see it when she looks at him ect, which im ok with in a way but also feel very paranoida about and more so since i got a copy and paste of her msn convo about it(from her friend)

we were in a reli awkward situation as we both had our partners there n the
family was there n I k w its wrong but we both still like each ova n we k w it can't happen

but he has adapted my style more w n has grown his hair longer n wiv highlights so he luks even nicer than b4

you shouldnt be thinkin that

I know I know - but im bein serious its true - I just cnt help it - it makes it awkward when we c each ova

If James n Tara wasnt there we probs wud av been talkin all the time

i don't know if im being silly but it seems to me as if shed of preffered me not being there or something
just wondered what everyones take on this would be..
thankyou for the help

[sera300]

If you write this in English, someone may be able to answer you.

[HardNgood]

wat's ur probs ldee..ROFLMAO

[emilie]

So, she finds her ex attractive... so what?
She finds it a little unsettling and she said she would have spoken to him if his partner and you weren't there.
I didn't see her say she wanted to dump you and sleep with him.

Your relationship is already doomed, you've overstepped the bounds of privacy. Any trust you had in her is gone, and any trust she has in you will be gone if she finds out you went through her messages.

Note for the future... keep your nose out of her business and don't ever talk about ex's... EVER!

[Lovesdesire]

well what i wrote is in english sera :P, im just english
meh my friend sent it me as he got of his gf who was discussing it with her, i guess im an idiot who has over stepped his mark....

[lov3less]

i can see why u would be worried i mean, she said she still likes him...but its just lust...like emilie said, shes only attracted to him so maybe u should talk to her about it if you're worried.

[sera300]

Originally Posted by Lovesdesire

well what i wrote is in english sera :P, im just english
meh my friend sent it me as he got of his gf who was discussing it with her, i guess im an idiot who has over stepped his mark....

Love:

Some of us have no clue about the "text stuff" and it makes it really hard to figure what people are saying. I am part of that "digital divide"; those who are caught in between the technological revolution. I had to search the net to figure what LMAO meant! So trying to interpret a whole note is impossible for me! It does not make you an idiot; so please don't call yourself one!

[HardNgood]

Originally Posted by sera300

Love:

Some of us have no clue about the "text stuff" and it makes it really hard to figure what people are saying. I am part of that "digital divide"; those who are caught in between the technological revolution. I had to search the net to figure what LMAO meant! So trying to interpret a whole note is impossible for me! It does not make you an idiot; so please don't call yourself one!

Ohhhhhhhhh you ole fuddy duddy!....running away very fast and ducking any incoming F bombs..giggles

[dancingdoc2]

There is a difference between IM shorthand used on cellphones, etc., and a forum or letter which this venue is. I agree that it is very difficult to decypher messaging cryptic shorthand that has no place outside instant or text messaging.

[EvilEvilKitten]

As far as you are concerned, yes, you BLEW IT! Snooping like that is the trademark of a loser. You have all of these emotions but you do NOT have the one you really need right now - EMPATHY. How would you feel if a girlfriend discussed your messages and conversations behind your back? Betrayed is the word for which you are looking.

Ex's do NOT EXIST. Period. They are none of your concern. You have no rivals. Men screw up so much that generally speaking they are their own worst enemies and rivals are unnecessary. It is just you and her - no one else.

The social situation you were put into was a test of your confidence and your social skills. The lady wanted to see how you would perform under pressure - guess she found out, huh?