Confused

[cper01]

We're both 15 years old and didn't have sex.

I treated her perfectly, we never got into a fight before this, I called her everyday, I always told her how beautiful she looked, and how much I loved her.

Well, my girlfriend just broke up with me on Wednesday after 8 and a half months. She did over the phone and she wouldn't tell me why, when I asked her why she replied, "I don't know." Before that she did give me some kind of reason, she said that, "when you're gone in Colorado for a month who am I going to hang, I cant hang out with my friends anymore because I've ditched them to hang out with you. I don't want be left out for that month in the summer, so I need to build my relationship with my friends back up." Even though I know for a fact that she wouldn't be since I talked to her friends about it.

Now when I walk by her locker shes talking to other guys and it upsets me. Shes been texting one of her friends boyfriends who's a grade higher than us and has been going out with all of her friends and dumping them after a month. When we were together she told me that she hated him for hurting all of her friends.

I asked this guy who she's been texting sister to ask him if she told him why she broke up with me. She asked him and he said that he had no part of it and that they were just "good friends."

I thought that she felt the same way about me as I felt about her... I thought I loved her. Just a week ago none of this was happening and she loved me(or so she said.)

She didn't warn me of this or anything, it was just random.

And that whole friend concept of hers is backfiring on her because her friends like me more than they like her right now because they know that shes talking to that guy that broke all their hearts.

So, I don't know what to do...

Should I give her some space and hope she realizes what a mistake she made?

or

Should I try talking to her right now about what all this was about?

or should I try something else???


I miss her, and it would kill me if I saw her going out with another guy... (No, I'm not suicidal or homicidal, it was merely a figure of speech. )


Thank you for your opinions and help.

[sera300]

What to do? Go out and hang with your friends, start dating, be nice to her but let her get on with her own life. Stop looking for any more of an answer, it does not matter. Just go out and date as many people as you wish & can. She is your ex now.

[dancingdoc2]

All the more reason you should date lots of people, some at the same time and have no exclusive relationship for at least five more years. You eliminate all the drama associated with juvenile relationships and you have more people to hang with and to do things with. More to the point, you get to sample more of what humanity has to offer so can make a better choice when Ms. Right does come around.

The teen years are a decade long and it takes this long to make the change from childhood into adulthood. Boys and girls continue to grow and mature over the years and tastes in people as well as ideals and interests change. It is silly to stop dating with the first warm body who expresses an interest in you.

[EvilEvilKitten]

Stop trying to be exclusive and have a "relationship" with someone - it is not necessary nor, at your age, is it desirable. Date a great many, hang out with all the friends you have time for and just enjoy life.