Sex after a month.....?

[LadyLuck3164]

Ok here's a very brief summary. I met a guy online, first guy I have ever actually "dated" from meeting online. I know 2 married couples who met online too so I gave it a shot. We both are single parent's and have been straight forward from the get go. There's chemistry there....a lot. We have made out to the point of ripping each others clothes off! After both getting pretty strung out and just wanting each other so bad we have both decided to have sex. Planning ahead kind of sucks but we are both working parents so its a must. My main question is do you think planning ahead will ruin it or make it better when we do "do it"? (elaborate please)
Also.....I haven't dated in a while so whats the average wait time now before dating couples are jumping in the sack?

[sera300]

Sounds as if due to your schedules and your family obligations you both have to plan alone time together and plan it ahead. I would think though if you are spending the day together, then spontaneity can be worked in.

As far as how long until you sleep together, no rules, you are both adults and do as you wish. I'd say the first date is too soon, after that all is fair. I have been told by some male friends, they can guarantee most women will by the second week.

[Dan1]

yes and no. you say it as "planning ahead" and fitting your schedule. you make it sound like a business arrangement or a meeting. when its put that way it doesnt exactly sound exciting. Sex is often spontaneous and lustful. When it scheduled it detracts from that spur of the moment lust. the way you counter this is you need to turn it into lustful anticipation. instead of "lets plan to have sex at 3 during your lunch hour." make it more playful and seductive "I cant wait to show you what i have in store for you tonight." hint to him/her how amazing its gonna be. so that you are thinking about it constantly. Its festering in your thoughts throughout the entire day and you are getting warmed up for it before its even happened. and thus knowing your going to have sex can have you on the edge of your seat, begging for it rather than it just being another event on your busy schedule.