Sex with Ex...twice.

[linlin]

I got dumped on valentines day. We got back together the next day and i got dumped again a month later. Two months i've been single now, and i've only just gotten over him really. But yesterday i went to his house to study and i gave him a hug, then he kissed me and then we had (very good) sex. Today we did the same thing...
We just cant stay apart from eachother but he has been so nasty in the past. Can people change?
I miss being close to him, we just seem to bicker a lot over silly things. We've never cheated on eachother or hit eachother. Just bicker like brother and sister and getting jealous.
I think i should wait, a long time and make him come to me. PLus school really messes up relationships and i'll be off to uni in 7 months.
Another question.. does it get easier seeing the person you love laughing and joking around with another girl?

[sera300]

People do not change. If you failed to communicate well it will probabily always be an issue especially if he was nasty as you said.

Sometimes, it's easier when you see the other moved on, then you feel okay about it and find there is a whole world full of people out there.

Sex with an ex b/f? It's not big deal as long as neither of you are falling back into the relationship!

[linlin]

Yeah he was quite nasty. I think during the course of our relationship he just grew up to be more manipulative, we were only just 16, now we're both nearly 18. I have met people since breaking up with him, his best friend was really supportive, then HIS girlfriend did the same thing to him and we ended up hooking up (making out, fondling) while at a concert. My ex doesnt know this.
We agreed it would be easier to get back together if our split wasn't seen by our whole school, and my family hadn't seen me so upset. I think i'll keep contact till school is over, so not much longer really. Then i can choose whether i want him in my life or not. Till then, i guess if i want sex i'll have it. He was my first anyway and i dont like the thought of sex with someone else right now.

[alban lusitanae]

I would seriously advise you to stop the contact altogether. Something akin to that happened to me and... it was not nice. Quite frankly he's taking advantage of you.

My 2 cents

[linlin]

thanks i am kind of torn between what to do. The sex was just so good. I'll see what happens. I know i was a damn good girlfriend, and that as time passes he wants me back. Ah the control is finally back after feeling like ive been losing it for 2 months

[spider123]

Yea, Id try and lose all contact if possible. Then if he does want you he will come back to you, you just have to be patient. If he doesnt come back, then Id say he wasnt worth it anyway.
Goodluck!

[Engage!]

Had horrible arguments with one gf. We broke up and got back together about three times. Then we separated and she disappeared for a while, came back and wanted to marry me. Even though her personality had undergone some interesting and beneficial changes, I refused to marry her. Oddly enough, she and I still talk and we're really good friends. I believe that people can change. Let him come to you, and if he does, see how it works out. But be careful. If I were you, I wouldn't have sex with him again until you understand each other better. If all you do with him is have sex, he'll value you only for your body, rather than for who you really are.

[EvilEvilKitten]

Go off to the university and one year from now you'll be wondering what you ever saw in him. It happens. Frequently. You both mature you see.
Yes, if you are an emotionally secure woman. Jealousy is for losers - so lose it or be prepared to tell the world that you're a scared little rabbit who doubts her ability to hold a man and doesn't trust her man farther than she can throw him.