Have i done the wrong thing?

[walkinroundinacircle]

Ive been with my partner a few months now and he's a great guy and things are going great, its just as soon as it goes to the bedroom...

im not claiming that its all his fault i know i have a part to play in this too, he's a great kisser and even one of his kisses can really get me going and really turn me on but its the foreplay, it doesnt feel bad, just not particularly good either, and the sex feels alright just nothing amazing.

Today i tried telling him my concerns, and as much as i tried to do it in a way that wouldnt hurt him he has been hurt, he now thinks he is completely useless and he doesnt know where we are going to go from here.

now i feel really horrible for mentioning it but i wasnt happy and it had to be said

[Brandye]

"Ït had to be said." Amen. Puppy love can be difficulty.

[sera300]

He's young, he will adjust. Now maybe you can get it going better.

[walkinroundinacircle]

he's not that young ..

[sera300]

Then he is throwing a temper tantrum, he will adjust. He needs time, that's all. What are you supposed to do lie to him? Tell him it's great? You probably did him a favor overall by telling him. Not young? I take as 20's.

[walkinroundinacircle]

Yeah mid 20's. i can understand him feeling upset and hurt, of course i can, last night he was really making an effort but it still didnt feel great and you could see how frustrated he was getting. i just dont know what to do

[dancingdoc2]

You've just encountered the Fragile Male Ego, no doubt. He probably thought he was doing OK particularly if no one in the past told him otherwise. So, what is the guy to do? I recommend that he read the following Sticky posts.

Ask hime to read the following Sticky posts, not because he is a poor lover; rather, so that he can acquire more knowledge and information that will make him a more skillfull caring lover and thus improve your love life. Please read these, also.

INTERCOURSE / ORGASMS / and the gentle art of Humping

For Men and Women Only- Breasts and Play

HELP! S/He is more EXPERIENCED! To which I say:

[EvilEvilKitten]

And YOU need to relax, give yourself permission to enjoy sex, and FEEL what he's doing. If you have to repeat a mantra in your head "he will please me" over and over again - DO IT. Then move on to being more active with him - do forplay to him, just have him lie there and 'take it'. Get an anatomy book out and see where the muscles go - for massage; and see where the nerves run - so you can stimulate them with your kisses and caresses.

[walkinroundinacircle]

the way i feel right now im so frustrated with it all, i really do love him and things are great it really just is the sex, maybe were just not compatable like that

i just feel bored most of the time, the other day i showed him how i touch myself and he has given me an orgasm through that now but i still felt like it wasnt enough and i wanted more, when we have sex i lay there and just wish it was over and that he would get off me and its just getting me down and i dont know what to do

[sera300]

It's time to stop having any sex with him until you get some type of action plan. You need to sit and talk to him. Make up an excuse not to have sex until you both chat.