once a cheat always a cheat?

[mormegil]

hi ive recently got back with this girl. and ive found out (from her) that she cheated on her ex who she was with for 3 years. he treated her badly and knew she was cheating (im guessing she cheated on him to get back at him for the way he treated her). then she got with someone after me but didnt know he had a girlfriend. then she went out with another guy who was cheating on her so she started texting her a different ex who had also treated her like **** (and was only after 1 thing and she says he didnt get it but not sure if thats true) and was only texting him to get back at the other 1. so she dumped him and came back to me saying she realised what she had lost. weve been back for a week now and its going well. but my question is this. if u cheat once are u likely to cheat again. she told me after we split that she had never cheated on me. im usually pretty pecemistic but i do believe her. so is it likely that its just down to circumstances. or is she likely to cheat on me given the chance

[Trying2BeAGooDBoyFriend]

I believe once a cheater always a cheater... if they know they can get away with it all they have to do is justify doing it in their own minds and off they go. Usually her closest friends won't exactly encourage it, but she'll try to gain their support... and then do it... I'm a Cynic when it comes to relationships and cheating.. i despise it. So sorry to rain on your parade. Maybe someone else has a happier outlook...

[sera300]

If they do it behind ones back, they will repeat the behavior....

[NizeGie]

I don't know. Maybe, maybe not.

If someone does something in a particular situation, it's likely he or she will do the same thing (approximately) if the same situation arises again.

But if it doesn't, you don't know.

[EvilEvilKitten]

Maybe she will and maybe she won't. The real point is can you keep her satisfied at home enough and also do you love her enough to let her return to you if she happens to stray? Are you man enough to share? Are you jealous? Is her exclusivity important to you? If so, why? What does she want or need from you? Does she even know?

In other words - you need to be talking with her, not with us.

[Printer2]

well, most women, unless they're whores, which most aren't, cheat if there is no longer any emotional intimacy in their relationship and/or if the sex isn't good.

If you give her mind blowing orgasms, why would she cheat?

[Orow]

I think it's almost an insult to look at people in such a simplified way.

People change and learn from experiences!

I have once cheated on a boyfriend myself and I know I will never do it again. I felt so bad and I practically broke my own heart and lost the respect for my own person. And, more importantly, I dealt with the reasons why I cheated.

Has SHE dealt with HER reasons to cheat? Has she learned?


If people stop and think about why they do the things they do, they can change. They really can. No person stays the same throughout their life.