Want to Maybe Reconnect...

[Kazman]

Hey,

This is a bit of a long post, but the background info on the situation is rather important. In short, I met a girl while I was very sick, broke things off due to my poor health, and now that I'm better (a year later), I want to reconnect.

So I need some opinions here. I'm a 21 year-old guy, and rather inexperienced. I've never had a real gf, but I have made-out with a couple of girls and done a few minor sexual things with a couple girls.

Anyways, in Feb of 2006 I fell quite ill (serious and rare form of mono), and my entire world basically fell upside down. Things had finally been going right in life, and for once, I was truly satisfied with myself. As fate would have it I also met a wonderful girl in April of that year. This was the first time a girl had really shown a BIG interest in me, was really open about everything, and I liked her back. I was so happy.

But, by the end of April, I just broke things off. It became unclear when I would recover, and I just couldn't deal with starting a relationship when I was so damn sick (always sleeping/tired, feeling horrible, in pain, and numerous other symptoms including eventual depresion). I just wasn't me anymore. She knew I was sick, and wanted to take care of me, but I just wasn't into that considering I did not like who I was becoming. Long story short, I just stopped calling her or answering her phone calls/txt msgs. Of course, within a week or so, she just gave-up, and that was it. I've never had any contact with her since. Now I know this makes me sound like a real *******, but you really have to put yourself in my shoes. Even then, I agree it was maybe the wrong thing to do, but it's been done.

I finally got over my sickness in December/January of this year. I'm finally slowly getting back on track with life, and I'm really missing this girl. We never really went out on any true dates, but we did talk a lot, and I spent half a night at her house (shared the same bed). She was a real sweetheart, and did seem understanding of my situation. I think I'd like to start things off again, but I don't know how to get back in contact with her. So I'm left with three options:

A) Phone her
B) Add her to a friend on facebook (her facebook profile is set to private/friends-only)
C) Forget about her

I don't really want to phone her because it's a bit forward and sudden, and might be horribly awkward and go terribly wrong. So, I'd probably have to get a few drinks in me before phoning, which may also be a bad idea. Facebook is a slower way of getting re-aquainted, and would probably let me test the waters. And then of course, I can just forget about her. I can't imagine how she'd react if I were to contact her again, she might be very happy since she seemed to be very into me at the time, she might just be very pissed off or just indifferent. I don't even know if she has a bf now.

I'd prefer replies to this thread, but votes in the poll would also help.

EDIT:
Here's a post I made last year bout her:
http://www.sexinfo101.com/forum/new_...perienced.html

[HardNgood]

Send her some flowers and a letter explaining exactly what happened and how you felt. Tell how you feel now and ask her if there is any time in her life for you...let the cards fall from there... Good Luck

[doinmybest]

i would have to agree with the above

[sera300]

DO what HardNGood said...

[Kazman]

I also thought about the roses (I have something specific in mind), but there are a few problems:
- She might not be living at home anymore.
- I only went to her house once, and she might be a lil' freaked if I know her last name and remember where she lives. Our "thing" (not too sure what to call it) only lasted < 2 weeks.
- It might be a little too forward and rushed.

I'm have almost no experience with true relationships, and I don't want to give out the impression that I'm Mr. Romantic. Sure I can be romantic, but I liked how things were when we first met, and she was taking the initiative.

I've only talked about this with one other friend, and he thought adding her to facebook was a good idea because "it's a nice neutral way of saying 'hi'".

I'll give it more thought. More opinions would be appreciated, but it would be nice if replies could be a little more constructive and would explain why you feel/think that way.