Want to be more than friends.

[This Guy]

heya all, am pretty new on here and would like some advice on my situation.

the situation as it stands now is that: ive been friends with this girl for just over a year now which i met through a mate who was dating her at the time. we chatted alot and i dont think a day went past were we didnt speak. the more i got to know her the more and more i liked her and wanted to be with her. but she was with my mate.

after a few months they split up and i thought i would be able to get closer and unltimately ask her out. however when they split i was the only person to see both sides and therefore i could nicely and lovingly let her know y he had done what he did, i was her shoulder to cry on and help her cheer up. when all this passed i knew i wanted to be with her more than ever and well treat her better, with the care and respect she needs. we got tlking and she said she couldnt date me at that point cause of her having dated my mate, 'it will be weird' she said.

after a few weeks she started dateing another guy and i was hurt that she wasnt with me but at the same time happy for her because she was happy again. however after several months her new bf started treating her badly, stood her up a few times, never called her, she was more of a conveniance for him. because i talk to her nearly everyday on msn i knew how love struck she was and how emotionally attached she was to him. so again i was her shoulder to cry on and i met up with her when she got stoop up. they carried on like this for 6 or 7 more months untill a few weeks ago when they split cause he slept around. this time tho i wasnt mates as such with her bf/ex so i cudnt help her as much but i was still there for her when she needed

she gets very emotionally attached and has been treated baddly by alot of her bfs in the past. i know and understand this and id treat her how she needs to be treated. the thing is tho i tell her pretty much everything and am a crap convosationalist so i aint the most talkative person. and i am worried that because i tell her everything she wouldnt wana go out with me.

so i spose my question is, is there a way i can tell if she likes me, and if so how can i flirt with her more and ask her out?


cheers to anyone who offers some helpfull advice.

[sera300]

First discuss it with your male friend to see if he is okay with it if you are ever to pursue it; however, its a bad situation happening when a woman comes between friends. You will loose one or the other (him or her) so pick your battle. If she is uncomfortable, doubt she will become okay with dating you. Be her friend and let it go. If she shows interest then re-think the situation.

[This Guy]

cheers sera
my male friend and i dont talk very offen any more and hes already gave me the go ahead anyway.
i think ill take ya advice and stay her friend and see what happens.

[Matador]

You know? It sounds like you and her have long history together as friends, she already knows that you have feelings for her, that is a fact, and after 6 or 7 months of she being with some one else who doesn't treat her right and you there all the time for her, if she wanted she would picked you any time.

I've been there some times, when some one is interested in you, you can tell right away. Do a review of your relationship with her, if you are the one doing most of the work it means she doesn't want nothing serious with you, but just a good shoulder to cry on when she need to.

Want to do a test? just stop calling her for a long long time, and see what happens