Woah.. he doesnt want to WHAT?

[Sweetness12]

ok, well this guy and I have been dating for almost 3 months now... I recently came out of a very sexual, and energetic relationship of about a year...so i'm kind of addicted to sex, if you will...
Well, this guy, Josh, and i started dating through his sister, who is one of my really good friends. She said that the boy REALLY cares about me a lot and loves me blah blah you guys know the story..
and thats why he wont take it another step into the relationship and start having sex... Well, im sorry but thats not gonna cut it for me.
Do you think it might be because he may be scared?
I reverted to something I shouldn't have. A friend of mine who happens to be a guy came over one night and we did what needed to be done. I really dont think Josh needs to know because it would hurt his feelings, but i am like, in need of sex. I recently joined the US Army, so I know there will be a little while during training that i wont even be around a male, much less get sex from them. I dont know if josh is scared, or if he just really does care about me...but i'm not sure if i should continue with my guy friend just to be able to have sex before I leave, or if I should encourage a lot more on Josh's part....

can someone help?

[kinky1935]

you cheated on your boyfriend i really think you need to tell him.even if it ends up with you two breakin up.cheating is just wrong.

you are sleeping with another guys while dating this other one.it will hurt him to know you are ****ing other guys an cheating on him but it will be much worse if you dont tell him.

[Brandye]

If I want sex with a man, I make a couple phone calls. No one else' business.

[demonbuttercup]

Yeah, it sounds like you aren't looking for a relationship... you just got out of one...and are just looking for some fun before you go off to training camp.
Josh seems to be wanting something "real".
I would just let him know that since you are leaving soon and will be gone for awhile...that you aren't reallly looking for a b/f..but just some fun.
Don't string him along and sleep w/ other guys just to get your fix..that's not fair to Josh.
Plus, who knows.. Josh might be telling you that b/c he thinks that is what you want to hear... he might want to just be your sex buddy!!

[kinky1935]

yeah i agree with demonbuttercup.its not far to josh to be playing him alone and then going off and have sex with other guys and then going back to josh thats disgusting

[Sweetness12]

true.. but... He knows thats what i want.. ive made it extremely clear. I think his sister told him i cheated on him....cause he asked me about the other guy a few days ago...but i told him we were friends..which on its own, is true
i just kind of don't know what to do really...

[cjb1981]

Originally Posted by Sweetness12

true.. but... He knows thats what i want.. ive made it extremely clear. I think his sister told him i cheated on him....cause he asked me about the other guy a few days ago...but i told him we were friends..which on its own, is true
i just kind of don't know what to do really...

I understand wanting a lot of sex, I can even understand wanting a lot of sex, with a lot of people. But damn, cut the nice guy loose. If he is the nice guy that you say he is, then he deserves a hell of a lot better then someone like you.You cheated on him, and you want to again, with this friend of yours. It sounds like you want to f*ck someone, that's what it sounds like. If you want to go and f*ck someone, then go and f*ck someone. I don't think anyone can make it much simpler.

[alban lusitanae]

My 2 cents. End up the relationship. You don't want a relationship, you want sex. Fair enough. Go have it, but don't **** up somebody else's life over it. What if something happens to you while in the military? How do you think he would feel? End this now.

[sera300]

What you and your "other" friend did is between the two of you; say nothing it serves no purpose but to ease your guilt and it will hurt him.

End the relationship & be certain in the future to find someone you are sexually compatible with.

[EvilEvilKitten]

Keep your mouth shut. Josh is not the man for you. No testosterone in him. No need for guilt - you're not married to him. You need someone as bold and fun-loving as you are. The Army is a great place to look for him too!