I'm New & Need Some Advice-- What's New?

[Katnawlins]

Hello Everybody!

I'm new, and I need some advice. A couple of months ago a really good guy friend and I hooked up (no sex, but about four different times, drunk and sober). I eventually confronted him after a month of this going on to see what it was... you know: friends with benefits, a relationship, or did he want it to stop. He didn't say anything at first, but eventually said, "I think we should stop doing this before it snowballs out of control," which I actually was fine with.

So, that was a couple of months ago, and I had moved on. Turns out he still likes me, but now I like his bestfriend/roomate (not LIKE LIKE- I just want to hook up with him), and I think his bestfriend wants to hook up with me because we're always firting with each other, and when hang over there he always hugs me, and kisses me (on the cheeks, sometimes on the lips and on the neck), and always finds reasons to put his hands in my hair. But it would be very ****ty of me to do something with him, right? I'm still good friends with him (guy 1), and don't want to hurt him especially since he apparently likes me.

I have asked a lot of my friends advice on this, but it's sort of down the middle, literally tied. I want to hook up with our mutual friend (who is his bestfriend), BUT i don't want to hurt my friend.

[sera300]

His roommate? Maybe he is looking to hook up b/c of the rumor mill, too much information shared among roomies?

[Katnawlins]

This is going to sound weird, or maybe naive. But I don't think his roomate knew about us. My friend is very secretive about it. He didn't tell his best girlfriend about it until more than a month after we had stopped. I don't think his friend knows. I don't think he would be hitting on me if he did know.

[sera300]

If he told another as you indicate, he may have told his roommate or she did. Your choice but think through what you are doing.

[tmps]

sounds like he has been talking to his room mate, you may not think that they have been talking but they share a house and you never know what they could be talking about if that makes sense