What does she want from me?

[mormegil]

i was with a girl for a couple of months and we split. we stayed on friendly terms and she went out with a couple of idiots(this was what she said not me being biased). she dumped them. one was spreading rumours about her behind her back and the other one was immature and would rather go out with his mates and drink and do drugs than see her. we took the dogs for a walk the other week and it was good seeing her again but it was just friendly as i refuse to do anything with someone who is in a relationship. then we took the dogs down the beach yesterday and she told me straight away that she had split with her boyfriend (the immature drinker) and was single again. we walked and talked about other things and just messed around and we got quite close holding each other and stuff whilst messing around by the sea. then she invited me to hers. we sat on the sofa with a duvet over us and watched tv. we started to hold hands and she put her legs over mine and she kept looking into my eyes and then she fell asleep on my sholder whilst holding my arm.

it felt exactly like it had when we had been going out it seemed like nothing else had happened.

she has just turned 21 and im 20 in 2 months but she says that im very mature for my age and that i treated her really good.

is it possible that she went out with these other 2 and found that she really wanted me or is she just looking for comfort now she is single. (she didnt seem to bothered about breaking up with the other bloke she had told me she was going to do it) and on msn a week ago she said she missed me and started saying how "cute" and "fit" i looked. what does she want from me and what should i do?

[tmps]

well she could either be telling you the truth or she can still have feelings for you and want to be with you. you should front her and if you have feelings for her then tell her. it sounds like you both have feelings and want to be together. you wont know how she feels about you if you dont ask.

[sera300]

It takes time to find those who are special to us. Perhaps she found all the other's were jerks, and it's only through dating lots of people that we find these things and how great the first one really was (you).

Go and see her, have fun, and don't worry!

[cjb1981]

I was dating a woman that I cared about very much. She didn't seem to feel the same way (everything else came before me). Anyways, we called it quits, she dates at least a guy or two, and seems to want me back. " I know that its been awhile, but I would like to talk to you, and see you, if you want." The thing is, I don't, I found a person that is absolutely wonderful. So yes, she could have realized that she really messed up when she let you go the first time.

[EvilEvilKitten]

I say take her back but do so slowly. Make it clear that you are not some lapdog who can be kicked aside. She will have to earn your affection and your trust all over again. You do this by limiting your availability to her. Do not spend hours talking on the phone or on the computer messaging. See her when you want to see her. Feel free to decline invitations back to her place. Do you understand?