How do you get guy's attention?

[kinky1935]

how do you get a guys attetion..im really not sure how to...im a virgin and ive only had like 9 boyfriends..and they all asked me out and broke up with me cause i either would not sleep with them or i was not girly enough.


but anyways..how do you get a guys attetion..

[sera300]

Flirt with them, or catch their eye and smile.

[kinky1935]

i dont know how to flirt with a guy..and i dont smile i mean i never really have

[sera300]

First make it a point to start smiling. Don't just walk around randomly when your alone & do it, they might lock you up!

But when you are talking start smiling. If you see someone you are interested in, look at him, don't stare, and when he looks over at you smile, hold eye contact for a few seconds and then go back to what you were doing. Repeat it.

When talking to someone of interest, ask him questions about himself, look directly at him, don't look off. Smile at him, make eye contact when you are listening to him or talking. Tell him a bit about you but keep the focus on him. Hopefully he picks up on it and continues.

Flirting is about making eye contact, being confident, smiling, not about acting ditsy. So what you ride bulls, you are still a woman!

I viewed the picture you posted, you are attractive, just start smiling. Even try making eye contact at a red light, in traffic, with a guy... Practice it!

[mishsa]

if u dont smile, theres no chance..
sorry hun. you gotta smile, it will show ur fun!

smiling is the first step.
then talk to him, about what he likes to do, then ask him to go see a movie!

[kinky1935]

sera300 thanks for the advice it really helps..i will try to start smiling more offten..and i will try to flirt.i dont like anyone yet..but im looking.its time to find someone new...i think im finally over my ex.

its hard for me to make eye contact and keep it..im very shy..and i have never asked a guy out..i seem like a real outgoing person.,.but im not very shy

[EvilEvilKitten]

May I? How to get a guy's attention - scope out the guys in your immediate target area. Select those who meet your criteria. Move into his line of sight and catch his eye, holding it for approx 10 seconds, you can smile but do NOT wink at him, before moving on. Wait a few minutes, if he has not come over and said hello, you can repeat the above once. If still no response, move onto the next target. If you wink, you're telling him that hot rampant sex is being offered and since it isn't - don't wink. Please stand up straight while doing this - it signals confidence and improves your appearance.

Flirting is just what Sera said with one little addition - touch him: Arm, wrist, or hand. Do not punch him in the arm! You're not one of his buddies. One does not have to be girly to be feminine but you certainly do not want to be 'one of those boys'. Just apply light pressure with your fingertips on the back of his hand once during conversation to signal interest to him.

[dancingdoc2]

is staring.

I find that eye contact is most effective if it is fleeting, being only a few seconds at most unless and until you get into a serious conversation and you want to focus on him and what he is saying.

Applying eye contact initially can be uncomfortable for both the initiator and/or the receiver until you learn to become comfortable with the intimacy of it. Becoming comfortable with this means being comfortable with yourself, first. To smile is to be outgoing. When talking to people, smiling also shows an involvement or a positive interaction with the other person.

Smiling is very important to me both as a dancer and as a business professional. It is also my saving grace because my natural expression is a scowl--when caught I just tell people it is the way I'm "hung". So, I have to make a conscious effort to remember to smile if even just a little whenever I talk to people. When around people, I have to remember to at least get rid of the scowl, the narrow eyebrows, and to turn up the corners of my mouth, so people do not think I'm in a fowl mood which would be an incorrect assessment.

The average Ballroom dance lasts between 2:30 and 3:30 minutes. Having a genuine smile is part and parcel of the image you and your partner present to the audience. It also shows that you are having fun (unless you smile through clenched teeth! ) and can often be a turning point for having someone else want to dance with you, later.

A smile is an important checkpoint for both men and women who are interacting with one another. This is especially true for women who look into a man's eyes because a smile reflects there, also.

I can tell you first hand how difficult it is to learn to smile when you have not done it much. My suggestion is to practice making eye contact and smiling often yet for only a couple of seconds when passing people. Later, if you have a conversation with another person, practice often yet in very short bursts, so to speak. Do not attempt to plaster a smile on your face; rather, just make your smiles genuine albeit fleeting. If you are engaged in a conversation, listen for things to respond to and then do so with a smile, first.

As you gain experience, confidence, and confidence in yourself, you will begin to smile more and even lingering when appropriate. A smiling person is often a more interesting person to talk with. A smiling person demonstrates having at least an initial interest in interacting with you; and this works both ways. Why, shucks! I am smiling just a little as I type this and having read the exchanges between you and Sera and EEK. Now, why do you suppose that is?

SMILE

[kinky1935]

thanks i will try and smile more offten..it was a little werid cause this morning at work i smiled at one of my trainers that i ride for the most and i smiled at him an hes like was wrong with you..cause i never smile..

and i can make the eye contact thing but smiling with it will be a little harder..for me to do that..

so what do you do when the guy you like just suddenly starts talking to you..i mean there is this one guy at work that i like and ive known him for a while..its just im not sure if he likes me back or not i just dont know how to tell

[dancingdoc2]

> so what do you do when the guy you like just suddenly starts talking to you..i mean there is this one guy at work that i like and ive known him for a while..its just im not sure if he likes me back or not i just dont know how to tell


I'm going to give you the same reply I give guys who ask the same question. Girls are pretty chatty creatures so LISTEN and then interject comments on what they say. Ask simple questions to learn a bit more and to have the conversation continue. To the boys, I also advise not spilling all the beans at once meaning don't tell her "all" about you, save some information for later conversations.

You have options, if you are typically chatty, then talk to him. You can tell if he is loosing interest. Engage him in conversation by asking questions, even if you know the answers. You may have to do this just to draw him out. The idea is to chat and to acquire some familiarity with each other.

If he likes you, he won't be in any hurry to excuse himself unless he has a prior committment.