unsure

[kinky1935]

Ok im looking for a new boyfriend cause my friends think its kinda time for me to get over my last boyfriend...the thing is i was rasied around 40 men as i lived on a race track so im a big tom boy..i dont dress like one..

i do dress like a girl..but i dont know how to act like a girl around guys.and i can never tell if a guy likes me or not..i have alot of guy friends..but i do want a new boyfriend..


so how do guys want a girl to act..and how can you tell if a guy likes you or just wants to be friends..an another thing im really shy untill you get to know me.and i have never asked a guy out..

[Frankie]

Hmm, tricky.

The thing with guys and confidence is that no-one can tell you exactly what to do or who to be to 'get the guy' as if its in a manual somewhere. all you can do is be yourself, and be patient and see what happens-but then again, that might not work for you. All you can do is what feels like the right thing for you to do.

but thats just my opinion.

x

[kinky1935]

yeah not to many guys around here like girls that act like cowboys..i ride horses and bulls.so its a little differnt i guess

[EvilEvilKitten]

It isn't that you ride bulls, horses etc - it is that shyness of yours that's killing you. Stop being so afraid. They're just boys. Most of them, at your age, are experiencing the same insecurities you are. How does a horse behave when it knows you're afraid of it? Badly. Confidence attracts. Stand up straight. Decide what characteristics you want in a boyfriend. Go to a target rich enviroment. Scope them out and make your choice. Relax and talk. Jut talk. If you want to see him again, touch his hand during the conversation and give him your phone number - If, and only if, he asks for it. If you do not want to see him again - do not touch him and do not talk for more than 30 minutes with him. Smile and move on. If he does not ask for your number - he's not interested. Give him a week to call. If he doesn't call - he's not interested.

Certain 'weapons' are not for you. No winks, no tighter-than-tight jeans, no high heels, and nothing outrageous in hair or make-up. And you certainly cannot use my pick-up method. Other than that, just be who you are - the girl who can stare down a 2000 lb bull.

[kinky1935]

well im 16,and ive never dated a guy the same age they were all 17,18,19

well im never affarid of my horses..well i mean i grew up on horses i ride horses for a living..i grew up around guys its just when it come to them likeing me i get nervous.

i seem to act very dumb when it comes to talkin to someone i like or who likes me..it very bad

[Ratach]

Find a subject you both like and get lost talking about the SUBJECT rather than thinking about the person you are with. This really helps to break the ice. Once you find something you both are interested in and can talk freely about, it is not all that difficult to change the subject to something else.