May I ask for some advice?

[HereIgogogo_Gone]

Greetings all, I have been coming to this site for some insight and knowledge for the past 2-3 years now, and only now have I registered an account to the forums. And now I would like to be able to ask something, and get an unbyassed opinion about all this.

Well, as of Feb 16/06 my first date with my current girlfriend, I had an instant attraction to not only her beauty, but to who is she is as a person. Her personality, experience, zest for life and playful attitude just makes me all... unexplainable really, but she just makes me feel alive. Just something I have not been able to feel towards anyone prior.

On the first date, we had spent the entire day together, had brunch, walked on the seaboard, got hot chocolate, sat and talked about whatever, went to an art gallery, then later went to her house, talked some more and she had given me a picture of her. Which uplifted my heart(not sure if thats a little cheesy or not, but I had to throw it out there). Then after that, I went to dinner with her and her mom at a fancy restaurant. Everything went prime, beyond reason. The second day, we went to the movies before I had to go to work, had a blast, held her, laughed, enjoyable times as any date should.

It was the third date, but this was more just a hang out really. Because she was just kicked out of the house and had to move in with her parents. This was days after the movie. But near the end, my affection for her was great, I wanted to kiss her, because during that time I spent with her, I held her, went back to the seaboard, and made her feel safe. The kiss attempted near when she had to go home by taking the bus. I was doing it slow, and making not so rushed. But she pulled away, and got on the bus ASAP. But not in a rude way or anything. Moments later, she texted messaged me saying that she knew I wanted to kiss her and she wanted to kiss me, but she wanted the perfect time and place for it. Which I respect.

For the past 2 months we got together about 1-3 times a week all depending on each other schedules and what has been going on in her life.

She has alot going on right now. Also has gone through alot in her previous relationships and getting together with others. She has had three guys that she went with, that cheated on her, some to whom were *******s, and some who attempted to advance on her not so willingly(if you know what I mean...). Then not to mention her issues with her family that I had helped with alot, and will always be there to support her through it all. Just the other day I got her completely moved out within the day. Stayed with her for the night. Then had to move her back in 2 days later. (parental issues)

I said to her that I would be there for her no matter what, support her however she needs me. I have been there to listen and help her with any advice and solution she may have needed. I have enjoyed her company and she has enjoyed mine, to how I see it and even asked it.

Im sure that you all dident want to read all of the smaller or exact details, so more or less I kept it near the end there just points to on whats going on.

Even after all of this, for some reason because of all that she has gone through with previous relationships, I feel and know that she wants to go slow with this. Wanting to make sure she can trust and feel safe with me. Which she said she feels safe both mentally and physically. Also she said after I dealt with the most recent stuff, she said I was like her Guardian Angel, and is the sweetest guy she has ever met. I just don't ever want her to feel as if I am taking advantage of her situation with making her deal with more then she is dealing with at the moment. Like with the kissing, I know its not fully anything bad to attempt, but I personally do want it to be special, especially for the first embracing between our lips.

Im sorry that I gave an entire little story here, but I guess I wanted people to get the picture more. To have a better understanding. Because I truly do care for her, more so then anything I have ever felt for anyone. I am still young, don't even know the sweet embraces of the meaning of love. But by the way that I feel, I feel as if I do. Or just the beginning of which that is still growing and becoming more defining.

Mainly I guess I'm asking is... is what I'm doing good as in going as slow with everything? Am I being a push over in a way maybe? being walked on(used) as it were because of the situation from the moving?(but its a complicated situation, and is hard to get into)

I am so new to this whole experience, im pretty much spinning from all of this emotional backlash. But it is clear to how I feel. But my steps in which I wish to take is somewhat hazy.

Arg, im just gonna stop here, im sure you heard more then enough of my ranting... and yeah... anything would help. Again, much is appreciated for reading all of this, and letting me getting it off of my chest. Oh, and I havent even said it all, so much more has yet to be said, but you know. Cant get into it all.

~ Cheer's

[sera300]

Okay, taking it slow is fine, there is nothing wrong with this. You are getting to know her and she you. This is what you are supposed to do. A push over? No. If you are young I see absolutely nothing wrong waiting to develop a physical relationship is not a bad idea. Have fun, enjoy your time together, and be certain of the relationship before it progresses into a physical relationship.

[tmps]

i agree with sera, let her make the moves to what she wants and feels is right