Age difference in 20s

[rdhdliz22]

Hey everyone...

just wondering...I am a 22 year old female, just met this great guy who's 27. When we went on our first date, he expressed concern about me being too young for him. My question is, first off, what are your opinions on the age/maturity gap, and secondly, do you think once he's formed this opinion he could ever change his mind?? Dammit, I really like the guy, and I feel like he's convincing himself I'm too young for him. It doesn't help that some of his good friends are older than him and married.

[sera300]

22 and 27 is not bad. Perhaps his reluctance is he is looking for marriage material and feels you are too young for that?

A lot depends on both maturity levels and where you are in life. Maybe he feels you rather party then be serious?

Just date him and see where it goes. If he openly said something about the age difference, I'd ask him what his reluctance is. He may change his mind depending on what you have as common interests, if you have a good time when you are together, and enjoy each other's company.

[HardNgood]

Yup, what Sera says PLUS his concerns might be intellectual levels of difference. That is my concern about age differences, I always wonder how people can connect intellectually with huge age gaps(I'm not talking about this particular thread).

[MrPink]

My girlfriends 20 and I'm 26.
We've been going out about 8 months so far and I don't see the age gap as a problem, only really in that I like 80's music (which she hates) and she likes 90's lol

[Sexpert44]

Im 17 and my boyfriend is 21. This seems like a big difference when your a teen and sometimes it does feel like a big gap, but i love him, so age doesnt really matter to me.

[turbo]

I'm 20 and have a 15 year old girlfriend. She's really mature and I love her. Age doesn't matter after a while.

[bryrw06]

i'm 20 and my boyfriend is 25.
i think once you're an "adult" the age gap becomes less significant.
my boyfriend and i act very similar in age...the only thing that would ever concern me is that he might want our relationship to eventually develop into something serious whereas i'm never looking for anything like marriage just yet!!!i
i've been seeing him for about 9 months and we get on brilliantly - noone judges either of us on age.

[kon]

i think age diff is more an issue for guy dating younger girl than girl dating older guy

[DruityLoops]

i think when your a teenager and in highscool, age difference matters A LOT. when i was 17 i was dating someone who was almost 16 and it felt like there was a HUGE difference between us. i think it is because when we are teenagers we are all maturing at different rates and stuff.
but when we are in our 20s everyone is adults and if you think you two are on the same page with what you want out of a relationship then you'll be find.

i used to work with a lady who was 27 and her boyfriend was 38. they had a lot of problems bcos she was young and wanted marriage/kids etc and he did not because he had already done all that

[NizeGie]

Twenty-two and 27? Jeez, don't worry about it. You're both probably pretty grown up and -- if anything -- five years is a pretty standard age gap. Sure, I guess there's some minority of 22-year-olds who shouldn't be dating 27-year-olds, but there's some 22-year-olds who shouldn't be dating 22-year-olds.

On the other hand, 20 and 15 is just yucky. Yeah, I suppose:

Age doesn't matter after a while

so long as by "a while," you mean 5 or 7 years from now.