Sex and committment

[JOshua]

hmmm...
well my last gf and I broke up.
Afterward we were friends with benefits.
The sex just wasn't the same.
my thoughts were "this could be the last time" or "I need to work harder to please her, maybe she will take me back"
Needless to say the sex wasn't as good once we broke up.
Is this common at all?
I have to say physically I was pleased, but emotionally I just didn't feel safe.

I suppose I would love to have a sex life where I don't have to thrill the lady every time to keep her.
ANyways, Any thoughts?
We don't have sex anymore and I wonder if I'll be able to share a bed with a lady again...

[sera300]

Yes, life goes on after a split. And you learn to share with a new partner.

[tmps]

ok well when you were together you were putting all your feelings into it and you were making love, now your just having sex. it will always be different because your not together. also making love to her wont get her back. if you really want her back you'll have to work out why you broke up if you dont already know and try to fix that problem. just letting you know that if you get back together it wont be the same.

[JOshua]

Originally Posted by tmps

ok well when you were together you were putting all your feelings into it and you were making love, now your just having sex. it will always be different because your not together. also making love to her wont get her back. if you really want her back you'll have to work out why you broke up if you dont already know and try to fix that problem. just letting you know that if you get back together it wont be the same.

She decided to get back with her ex, I can't change that.
She would talk about him a lot when we were "friends with benefits" there's no way in Hell that I'd go back to that.
I suppose I was just venting, and trying to get outside opinions.
so to answer my own question I will move on.
Besides, I just found out that I will be moving to the midwest in less than two weeks.