age problem

[turbo]

I have a problem and hope you all can help me out on tips and advice.

I've been friends with this girl for a half a year and now I found out she has a HUGE crush on me. We have alot in common, were both Christians, we love electronic music, we watch even anime and cartoons lol. I really want to be with her also, she is very beautiful and her heart is so sweet.

But my problem is that she is 15 years old and im about to be 21 years old. Can you give me any advice. Can you tell me what law i'm breaking since she ain't 18 yet. What should I do with telling my parents or her parents? Should we keep it a secret? I'm not going to have sex with her and am going to respect her for what she wants.

Thanks for all your help, these forums rock

[sera300]

http://www.coolnurse.com/consent.htm

This is the link for legal age of consent for sex. Sorry, I cannot see a 21 y/o being involved with a 15 y/o it's too much of an age/maturity gap.

There is no law against dating, just no sex. As far as dating her, if you are going to do it then you should talk to her parents and yours before asking her out. I really believe you should find someone more your age.

You can go out and drink, and she cannot even drive a car yet...you work (or are graduating from college) and she is in what 9th-10th grade???

[turbo]

i know what your saying, and I know it's strange but we really click with one another.

I will probably talk to her parents with her and I think my mom might not care or my dad. There is a 12 year differnece between them lol

[sera300]

Don't talk to her parents with her there. Bad idea since she is so young. You need to have a heart to heart chat w/the parents not with the pressure of her being there, and them saying no (w/you present) may cause her to rebel. As far as the age difference w/your parents...I doubt they met and dated when your Mom was 15 and your Dad 27. The gap remains the same (in age) but as people mature it's less significant.

I just do not see how a man who is graduating College is looking to date a 9th grader, there is nothing in common...don't be surprised if her Dad has a talk to you while he polishes his shot gun. And as you get closer to her, how do you plan to skip the sexual part since you enjoyed it so much w/your f*** buddy? Then she is called jail bait and you become a registered sexual offender, worth the risk?

[turbo]

Originally Posted by sera300

Don't talk to her parents with her there. Bad idea since she is so young. You need to have a heart to heart chat w/the parents not with the pressure of her being there, and them saying no (w/you present) may cause her to rebel. As far as the age difference w/your parents...I doubt they met and dated when your Mom was 15 and your Dad 27. The gap remains the same (in age) but as people mature it's less significant.

I just do not see how a man who is graduating College is looking to date a 9th grader, there is nothing in common...don't be surprised if her Dad has a talk to you while he polishes his shot gun. And as you get closer to her, how do you plan to skip the sexual part since you enjoyed it so much w/your f*** buddy? Then she is called jail bait and you become a registered sexual offender, worth the risk?

I'm not going to have sex with her, cause i respect her. Were both Christian so we don't need sex to get closer to one another. My F buddy and I agreed that whenever we start dating, we would stop having sex. She was there for help and tips, kindof like these forums lol.

I'll probably talk to her mother sometime but the dad doesn't really even see her much so his say in this matter is not much. We live pretty close to one another.

[snap]

I kinda know how you feel. People may say the age gap is too much blahblah, but when you are so compatible, and the younger is very mature, it really isn't the way people think. I am 24 and head over stupid heels in love with a 16 year old guy. Terrible, the **** life throws at you!

[turbo]

it's kindof like, am i going to find another person like this ever in my life? And are we going to break up just based on age. She knows how to speak her mind, she ain't a baby.

[Browser]

Wait for her to grow hair. If you two truely love each other, waiting 'till she's legal won't be a problem.

[cjb1981]

Find someone your own age. Stop trying to put the moves on a pubescent girl, because that's exactly what she is, a girl. You can try to justify it any way you like, but the bottom line is, YOUR 21, AND SHE'S 15!!! Watch TV a little more often. There are Dateline specials on every Friday night about, 20 to 60 year old pedophiles trying to hook up with 12 to 17 year old girls. It's wrong, no matter how you look at it. You clam that you have no intentions of having sexual contact of any kind with her until she's at least 18? What if she has intentions of having sex with you? You going to turn that down? Your religion, or how religious you are, makes absolutely no difference. Bottom line, a hard dick, is a hard dick. And before the 3 years until she turns 18 is up, you're going to get tired of taking care of that hard dick by yourself. Be VERY careful.

[turbo]

dude she ain't going to have sex with me haha. Is it all about the sex to you guys? Come on I'm Christian and I can hold off on sex for a long time. I don't know about you but I wanna be with her for WHO SHE IS not how she looks.