NEED HELP - I'm such a fool

[macka_123]

well my problem is there is this girl i kinda like and i'm like pretty sure she kinda likes me to but every time we are at a party together and we start talkin it gets sorta wierd and neither of us have anything to talk about(i think its cause we are both thinkin about what we wanna do).

my mates have tried to give me advice like show some more sack and stuff like that but really all i want to know is how to get close enogh to her and then what to do, like i said when we are at partys i always se her lookin at me and stuff but neither of us will make a move so how do i show more sack, thanks

[sera300]

What is sack?

[macka_123]

My mates think i need to be more of a man ie. show some balls, take charge, but it is hard i've never kissed a girl so i am very inexperienced

[sera300]

OK; so you never kissed a woman, you are not an outcast unless you tell me you are 60 years old.

Go over and talk to her, keep the questions open-ended where she has to respond with more then a yes or no answer.

Maintain eye contact while talking to her, do not stare though. Talk to her as if she is the most interesting woman in the room and smile a lot (don't look goofy though, don't stare at her boobs when you talk to her, keep it on her face).

As her about the weather, how is school, who did she come to the party with, what does she do in her spare time, does she like to travel, any vacation plans for the summer, ask her about her family, etc.

Tell her bits about yourself too. Let her know what you are about but don't monopolize the conversation (on yourself), sell yourself a bit. Do not fiddle with your fingers, etc--shows you are nervous. Don't watch your buddies.

Ask her if you can have her phone number, call, talk to her a bit (not too long) and make a date to get together. If she cannot on the day you ask then set an alternative date. If she give you her phone number be certain to CALL, do it within 24 hours. When men wait too long we assume you really were not interested and if you call first thing in the am, you look desperate...call in the late afternoon or right after dinner. And then take her out to a movie...

[macka_123]

i'm not an outcast i'm like 17 in two months.

i see what you are sayin but i live in a smallish town and the school i go to has only got like 500 ppl. i already have her phone number cause we have been friends since like primary school, not like best of friends but we have never had any problems with each other. if i was to ask her to go on a date in this town it would be so wierd, plus i'm in high school. so i guess what i need is a guide to hooking up at party's (not in a way that i want to get laid every weekend but like to initiate a bond between us) cause thats sorta how it happens out here, yeah.

[sera300]

Initiate a bond? Means what? You want to hook up, meaning move from a friendship to a sexual relationship? Friends with benefits? I am unclear. Just be blunt here.

[macka_123]

yeah straight to the point i want to move from a friendship to a sexual realtionship, i'm not just after sex

[sera300]

Ask her to move to a more secluded area, like the couch. Put your arm on the back of the couch, keep chatting and slide it slowly around her shoulder, keep chatting, slide a bit closer, and lean in and give her a gentle kiss. Better hope she's interested. Either she will kiss you back or slap you.

Generally you try dating first though.

[macka_123]

well i'm pretty sure she is keen cause like when we talk i can see her looking at my lips and yeah like we alway look at each other and smile, so its just a matter of sitting down with her and trying to kiss her?

[sera300]

It's a matter of getting physically close, sitting or standing in a remote area, going out for a walk, and then gently kissing her. Don't go straight for the tongue action. Kiss her lips and her neck, no hickey's though. That's all there is to it. Some men ask if they can kiss you when they are close to you and some don't. If she pulls away from you stop. That's it in a nutshell. Good luck!