Girlfriend is dissappointed or something....

[Trying2BeAGooDBoyFriend]

Hello Board,
First off I'd like to say, I'm BACK it's been about a year and a half since ive been an active forumite, I recognize a few people. Anyways, my girlfriend and i have been together for going on four months, and yes we are sexually active. In the past, i have had issues getting her to rach a climax, however with patience and practice i have persevered and she orgasms on a regular basis. However, about 10 days ago, we were watching a movie and she said something along the lines of, i have a dare for you, or something to that effect. I asked her what she wanted to ask of me, and she insisted that i accept before she told me. I took the "dare" and she asked me not to masturbate for 10 days, I knew her period was around the corner, and i asked why she didnt want me to masturbate. At first she confessed she just wanted to see if i could do it. Then when i asked further, she said she wanted for me to be able to climax easier, she said she kinda gets discouraged, at least to my understanding, that she doesn't make me climax on a regular basis during intercourse or otherwise. I replied to her honestly and solemnly saying that I do not expect anything "sexual" from her what so ever and that it does not bother me that I don't climax regularly from being with her. By all means she is wonderful when we make love, I just am a hard guy to get. But its been 10 days since we've done anything whatsoever, which is somewhat odd, and she is almost avoiding me in some sense, when she has a chance to come over she doesnt and so on... can anyone counsel me and help me get things back together, should i be worried that she is "filling a gap" by seeking someone else?

[Brandye]

Adolescent love is strange. Only she can answer that question.

[Trying2BeAGooDBoyFriend]

I guess 20-years olds are still adolescents...?

[Brandye]

Depends but, mostly, yes. The hormones may still not be settled down and she really has not figured out what she wants in a mate.

[Trying2BeAGooDBoyFriend]

Aww i see, well today produced conducive results, I approached her about it, and we talked to get a few things out there. According to her, and i trust her, she has not been looking anywhere else, but she is just scared that i will push her away if she tries and fails to make me "happy". I explained to her that trying is all that matters, however, she shouldnt feel obligated to.

[EvilEvilKitten]

Just as much as you get off pleasing her so too does she get off pleasing you. Try to become easier to get, guy. Let yourself feel. Let her do some body worship. Get into 'receiving' for a change. It will work wonders.

[Trying2BeAGooDBoyFriend]

I do feel, i tell her when I get the tingling sensation that signifies "Just a little bit more" however, she tends to give up on me... every now and then she succeeds and by all means i appreciate it ever so much, however, she generally tends to give up.

[EvilEvilKitten]

Focus here. Become easier to get off. Just as she has learned to orgasm so can you. It isn't so much what she does or doesn't do as what's in your head. Before she sprains something trying, think 'go for the orgasm'. Reach for it.

[Trying2BeAGooDBoyFriend]

I'll try, I know what you are talking about, i've tried to before. I also find that i orgasm faster under fatigue so i tense up my muscles in my legs or my abdominal muscles if she's on top.

[Ephemera]

You might do better relaxing. Take a deep breath, close your eyes and just let her do all the work.