how to show my girlfriend i love her

[Lovesdesire]

well my girlfriend has confidence issues and has kept asking me how i can love her lol
i was just wondering if there was a good way to show her this by not spending money on her or kissing ect (i do that all the time)
just want her to realise i really do like her

thanks for the help

[dancingdoc2]

* Be attentive
* Be a good listener
* Call her once during the day just to say "Hi, I'm thinking about you right now" and nothing else. (Short sweet and to the point, then say good bye, I'll call tonight)

* Suggest going for a long 20-30 minute walk
* Suggest that for a date night the two of you play a board game. No TV.

Anyone else have some suggestions?

[snap]

I used to be like this, and still somewhat am. Confidence issues are largely internal, so aside from just being a great boyfriend and a gentleman, and giving it time, theres no trick you can do to suddenly make her open her eyes to the fact. She has to decide that SHE is worth being a fool over to somebody else. Just keep doin what you do.

(might also be a maturity issue? is she younger than you?)

(Oh)Snap

[Lovesdesire]

yeh a year, she's 16 im 17, been together for nigh over 6 months
just annoying having her question me if i like her so much..paranoia :s
thanks for all the help

[snap]

Yup, shes just got self confidence issues. Not really much you can do, just continue being awesome-- she will get over it. Good luck with that

[Trying2BeAGooDBoyFriend]

Just what the good doc said, be attentive, be loving, admire her, tell her she is beautiful and have an ANSWER as to why you think she is beautiful, tell her the things you love about her when she asks, or sometimes just randomly, hold her hand, give her a soft kiss on the cheek. SHOW affection, pure and simple.

[DruityLoops]

i think the key is not always what you say and stuff, but what you do. like that old saying actions speeak louder than words.
i had self confidence issues when i first starting dating my partner cus i was alwaqys wondering why he would want to date someone like me.
it didnt last long though cus it was just the little subconscious things he did that showed me he cared.
we have been together for 9 months and he still opens car doors for me and tells me every night before we go to bed that he loves me. and nothing impressed me mroe was that he was such a good listener and remembers little things i dont even remember doing/saying.

just give it time and she will know that u care

[JustHavingFun]

I'm the same way, always asking why do you love me and saying, well i dont think i'm pretty enough, or maybe you deserve better

my boyfriend didnt even make an effort to help prove he did

EXCEPT... after about three months of going out he said he wanted me to be the one he saw coming down the aisle and he wanted me to be the one grabbing his hand when our kid was coming out adn he wanted me to be the one rocking on a porch all old and gray with him

and thats when my issues about myself just went away...

i mean i still feel like he can do better and all but i know he loves me and doesnt want anyone else, and thats what she needs to knoe

sorry if i didnt help and your welcome if i did

[sburcs]

i'd take it as a major compliment. it just means she loves you to pieces and doesnt want to lose you...
i feel the same way. it's all like 'he's too good for me' n 'what did i do to deserve him?'. it's a good feeling but... for paranoid people (like myself) it sucks.
you can't really do much. as long as she knows you love her (which she probably does deep down) then all is good. but don't be clingy and show TOO much affection to reassure her, she'll get all suss. just be normal.

[tmps]

im like that way when i have my period, look all you have to do is let her know your there for her and you dont have to spend heaps of money on her. spend money on her for special occasions, it will mean a lot more to her. when she says stuff like that reassure her. thats what she's looking for....