Am i being paranoid?

[Westles]

Hi All,

I dont know if its just me being parnoid, or if there is something up with my girlfriend.

just this last week we have passed our 1 year anniversary together, however the last week or so, she doesnt seem to be as affectionate as she was. Now, this may seem sad to some.. but to me.. things like when she text's me and says Hey Baby! or Hey Gorgeous these sort of messages mean something to me, and lately she hasnt been sending these sort of texts, its more like hey or hey hey. She also seems distant with touching and hugging etc.

Same prospect above with the phone calls, now i have talked to her, and she says shes fine, and we are fine as a couple, but i just dont feel confident that things are ok.

Bahhhhhhh!

[sera300]

Maybe she is under stress? Or maybe she is becoming bored?

[Westles]

Sera,

She has had a bit of a hard time at college the passed week, but shes off now for the holidays, we are going to venice this monday for our anniversary, hopefully this will re-spark the love. But.. after i had a word with her i would have expected her to change a little, i didint mention about the texts etc, i just said she was a bit distant.

[sera300]

I would wait until the trip and see how everything is between you. Hopefully it's just a temporary change. What I have found from past relationships when affection begins to decline verbally and physically (beyond the norm for a longer term relationship) and people become distant; they are doing it b/c they are becoming emotionally detached. Perhaps she has a few things going on you may not be aware of. Sometimes it's something someone said to you and it makes you look at what am I doing? Am I really happy? And time allows each to really think through the issues at hand. A one year mark can make some ask the question; am I happy with where I am? Am I happy with my life?

Just wait it out for awhile, give her some room & have a great time in Venice!

[Westles]

Yeh i totally understand what your saying, i mean anyone in college could say anything to her about our relationship that could make her doubt or think about. I've been listening to Kelly Clarkson - where is your heart lol :P

Cheers Sera

[tikteka57]

Do something really chezzy like sing a love song infront of everybody at karoke or at home in a romantic setting for example. she will just cher up and hopfully things will get better

[EvilEvilKitten]

Stop stop stop! She's most likely becoming bored. Cheesy love songs aren't going to change that. You need to rekindle your masculine sexual appeal in her eyes and frolicking at her feet like a lovesick puppy will not do it. Try racing gondolas or pigeon-catching in St. Mark's. Something active and slightly competitive. After that, you should be able to sweep her up and carry her off!

[tikteka57]

Hey kitten if you think that she has lost the lust or passion for the man what would you say if he started to be cocky??????????? i have seen some of my older freinds start to be cocky after about a year or two in a relationship and they said it worked miracles to them???????????????

[demonbuttercup]

Originally Posted by tikteka57

Hey kitten if you think that she has lost the lust or passion for the man what would you say if he started to be cocky??????????? i have seen some of my older freinds start to be cocky after about a year or two in a relationship and they said it worked miracles to them???????????????

Cocky how?
If I was starting to lose interest and then the guy started acting like an ass... it would take about 2 seconds to say "SEE YA!!!"

[sera300]

Agreed Demon!

He would be finding his way out of my life for good!