Heeelp, dont know what to do!!!

[Buzz Lightyear]

Errrm thank you in advance for taking time to read this i really do apretiate it, im new to the site and have found it and its users very useful in the past weeks.

Well basically last night i went to a house party, with 2 of my male freinds and 2 of my female freinds (1 of which i am very close too and have always fancied her), everyone had been drinking and me and this girl had been dancing and flirting and wot-not, she started kissing me when i was on the couch and i just kind off just lay they and did not kiss her back, and to tell you the truth i have not the slightest idea why, but then after that she started to try it on with my other freind which obviously annoyed me (typical mail i guess, dont want it when i can have it....but i do want it when i cant).

so the real dillema is that i hink its going to be awkward between us two now, not because she kissed me but because she probably thinks im not interested, when i actually am.

soo im just curious on what your advice would be to let her know i am actually interested, or do you think she just was trying it on with everyone because she was drunk, im confused what shall i do????

Thanks. Buzz Lightyear

To infinity, and beyond...........

[Newtolove]

talk to her if you fancy her anyway and what do you mean by everyone else you specified only one person perhaps she wanted to make you jealous,

or just ask her out

[dancingdoc2]

When you talk to her, explain that the alcohol most likely had a hand in how things were (mis)handled. In addition, you might explain and clarify that you found the kissing pleasurable yet awkward, that you were not comfortable making out in public and that you place a higher value on your emotional involvements.

Because the two of you have a strong friendship, you should be able to talk to her. When you do, explain to her what I've said, above, if it is true. Next, explain that you would like to take your friendship to the next level by dating her and ask if this is what she would like. Her reply will dictate what path to take next.

Good luck.

[Buzz Lightyear]

thank you for the advice, i will just try and bring it up in a "jokey" manner, but i still dont know why i didnt carry things forward with her, it wasnt because i felt awkward because i love her to bits, i just think that i didnt because i didnt want her to sober up and think that she made a mistake, our freindship is too good for that. well anyways thanks for the help, will let you know how it goes when i see her tomorrow....

[Buzz Lightyear]

sorry "new to love" could you phrase that differently i didnt quite understand, my apologies.

[mcsgirl]

okay the male ego is the the most frustrating thing on the planet i dont see why you cant jus match your emotions with actions and not have to put on a front if you like someone!!

on that note - if you all were drinking i wouldn't hold her accountable for anything

grow a pair and ask her to do something just you two

[Newtolove]

I meant that you only mentioned her doing anything specifically with one other person, perhaps it was to make you jealous and make a move,

If you like her in any case ask her out or somthing