Should I Date my Best Friend?

[Punkyenvy]

Hi my name is annette and my best friend is Pete. I never thought about going out with my friend, but i do have some feelings for him. But when me and pete went to a party we both got drunk and had sex. After that he came up to me and told me that he has so many feelings for me and asked if i wanted to start a relationship. But im scared that if the relationship doesnt work, i will lose a best friend. He has all the same feelings i have for him as he does for me.

So I'm asking should i start a relationship?

Please and thank you

[madeye]

Life is a gamble at every turn.

Friendships are great and are important but unfortanately life throws a curve ball and people move on to different things and fade and out of your life.

So if i were you i would analyze the situation as if you were to just stay "friends" only how long would it be before something else comes along that takes your friendship on a different path like new relationships, new jobs, new colleges, a new home and one day even a family.

Anything you gain in life you must be prepared to lose.

There is a sexual connection established, consider all the possibilities that can happen in the future and they will all be varying from an assortment of good or bad outcomes. But in the end its just a guess.

No matter what path you take you will always be rolling the dice in some way shape or form.

"Nothing easy is ever worthwhile"

A friendship can be lost as quickly as a relationship.

Ask yourself which path gives the both of you the opportunity to increase your quality of life....then stick to that decision at all cost. Live your life to the fullest and never hold back.

"Never fear loss, instead Fear missing opportunities for gain"

[foxdan]

Originally Posted by madeye

Life is a gamble at every turn.

Friendships are great and are important but unfortanately life throws a curve ball and people move on to different things and fade and out of your life.

So if i were you i would analyze the situation as if you were to just stay "friends" only how long would it be before something else comes along that takes your friendship on a different path like new relationships, new jobs, new colleges, a new home and one day even a family.

Anything you gain in life you must be prepared to lose.

There is a sexual connection established, consider all the possibilities that can happen in the future and they will all be varying from an assortment of good or bad outcomes. But in the end its just a guess.



No matter what path you take you will always be rolling the dice in some way shape or form.

"Nothing easy is ever worthwhile"

A friendship can be lost as quickly as a relationship.

Ask yourself which path gives the both of you the opportunity to increase your quality of life....then stick to that decision at all cost. Live your life to the fullest and never hold back.

"Never fear loss, instead Fear missing opportunities for gain"

Well said
In the end of the day your partner is your best friend
Being together is not all about sex it is being friends
My wife is my best friend first
What I see is you have a good recipe for a long-term relationship

[HardNgood]

Lemmee see...you went to a party, got loaded, had sex...and now you "wonder" if you should have a relationship?? LOL...my how things have changed!...

[demonbuttercup]

Yea I agree
You've already had sex... so might as well go for it!

[cyclefreak]

Hmm, lets see. You have already had sex, and you both have strong feelings for each other. It sounds to me like things have already moved beyond just being friends.

I say go for it. Get together and give it your best shot. It may or may not work out in the long run, but if you let this opportunity pass by, you will never know, and will always be wondering about what might have been.

[demonbuttercup]

I agree... b/c usually when there are 2 people who are best friends but they wonder if they could be a couple.. but don't want to ruin it......well usually its the sex part that makes things awkward and uncomfortable.
You guys have already done that and seemed to have made it fine.

[Newtolove]

GO FOR IT

you've already done much and not much to loose

[NizeGie]

Originally Posted by HardNgood

Lemmee see...you went to a party, got loaded, had sex...and now you "wonder" if you should have a relationship?? LOL...my how things have changed!...

Really? Seems to me that kind of thing was, if anything, more common in the pre-AIDS days. But who knows ....

On the real question: I'd say go for it. And the reasons don't really have anything to do with the having sex part. People, particularly young ones, sometimes tend to classify members of the opposite sex in two separate boxes, as potential lovers or potential friends. Experience has led me to believe that most people would be better off if they didn't look at them as two different things, and focused more on the latter in picking a partner.

True, it is a gamble, but it seems like an attractive bet.

[Pils]

Go for it, its sounds like a plan