How do I get a guy to notice me???

[aprettywaste]

This guy works at my gym and he's 17 (two years older than me). I've only talked to him once but I've been going there for a while. He seems really nice and maybe he's shy but when I talked to him he seemed really outgoing. He doesn't really talk to me, he waves but he's never come up to me and talked to me. I work out with my mother so maybe he's nervous to talk while she's around? I'm really shy so I don't know how to talk to him.

[cjb1981]

Well, that's one hell of a predicament. I can tell you right now, that if I was attracted to a woman, but her mom was around, I'd have a hard time walking up to her. Even though you are shy, you may have to make the first move. If for no other reason, so that he knows it's cool to talk to you, without your mom freaking out on him. Another thing that you have to prepare yourself for, is the fact that he may be seeing someone. Also, most gyms have rules against employees dating members.

[Thresher_V]

I hope you don't take this personally, but how's your body? I ask becuase he may be intimidated or at least distracted. Not wanting to seem sexist, he might keep his distance and being around your mother would make that even harder. What if he made a compliment and your mom took it the wrong way? I know I would be hesitant.

[sera300]

I have to say your mom being with you is a deterrent to talking to him. I would just go up to him & make small talk with him, see what he does. Keep eye contact with him, don't stare, but see what he does...unfortunately if you don't make the move I doubt he will. You could always ask for a personal training session!

[EvilEvilKitten]

You simply cannot pick-up males with your mother there. It will NOT happen. What you can do, is chat with him and give him your phone number for later use. If he calls within 3 days, he's interested. If he doesn't, he is't. Problem solved.

[yoe123]

Listen to this very well, if he is interested in you, he will find a way to talk to you aside from your mom, if you had given him a hint that you like him, you shouldn't worry, he'll do it, but if he hasn't, then the problem is something esle.

[hunglikeahorse]

Get your baps out, then he'll be interested. That or talk to him about Emmanuel Kant.

[nervousaboutitall]

ure problem isnt ure mother. its you. dont just sit back and cross your fingers and hope he comes to talk to you. GO TALK TO HIM. as a guy i can tell you a deep dark secret: some guys could have absolutely no idea ure interested in them, dropping their confidence and then they wont make a move. you need to not whine, get over there and make a move. mak it obvious. dont make him figure it out. make it a huge glowing flare in his face signaling that u dig him. u will notice the spark in his eye immediately